I posted earlier today about my morning, so here’s how I spent the rest of the day.

Wednesday is my Hideaway Bar feeding expedition, so I baked up a batch of brownies and headed to John’s place for the grub–Korean style chicken wings for the girls and fish tacos for Joy. Since I was there, I decided to feed myself too.

Earlier in the day, John had posted this on Facebook:
Excuse me if you see me sleeping behind the bar. I am not well. I drown so I need to sleep sitting up. I got myself a lazyboy and pretty much live in it.
Still, I was shocked when I saw him; he looked terrible. I asked what was going on, and he said something about kidney and lung issues–coughing up blood. Because of the fluid in his lungs, he can’t lie down flat, hence the reclining chair behind the bar. Damn, I hope he gets well soon!
With my takeout orders in hand, I crossed the highway to Hideaway.

The brownies were more popular than usual with the girls. I used a different mix–no walnuts and extra chocolate. I guess that’s the way I’ll go in the future. Beers were drunk; ladies’ drinks were bought, and I even got a freebie beer from the manager.

While I was at Hideaway, I got a message from Lydell and decided to pay her a surprise visit at Snackbar. I did confirm before going that the f’n World Cup wasn’t being blared on the TV. Nothing against soccer; I just can’t handle the noise. Snackbar’s clientele mostly sits outside, and the sound system is inside. The last time I was there, I asked them to turn it down, and they did. A bit later, an outside customer came in and asked that it be turned back up. I was leaving anyway, but I’ll be glad when this “footie” shit is over.
Anyway, Snackbar seems to be doing well. Quite a few customers, and most surprisingly, it was about a 50-50 Filipino/Foreigner mix. The bars here are usually one way or the other. One Filipino table had most of the waitresses drinking with them, which meant I only had to buy for Lydell. Win!

A bit later, my friend “Judy” visited the bar and sat with Lydell and me at the table. When Lydell got up to serve a customer, she asked my opinion about something her friend was going through. It seems she discovered that the boyfriend was liking photos of pretty women on Instagram. My first reaction was, “big deal,” and then I went into a tirade about jealousy being all about poor self-esteem and unfounded accusations doing more damage to relationships than people realize; when I paused to catch my breath, I noticed “Judy” was crying. Damn, I did come down a little heavy, and she fessed up that she was talking about her boyfriend. Okay, well, I calmed down, and we had a more rational discussion about them talking through this issue. While I didn’t see anything wrong with merely liking someone’s posts, she could explain to him it bothered her, and perhaps he’d stop out of respect for her feelings. Then I bought her a beer.
This morning I sent her that “sociopathic” quote, and she responded that he had ended the relationship last night. Okay, well, good riddance then. She said she had been alone most of her life and could deal with it; she was just pissed at herself for believing in this guy. Hmm, welcome to my world. Anyway, she’s an amazing woman, and anyone would be lucky to have her.
Actually, I tried several months ago to the “the one.” Judy fits the description of the type of woman my commenters have encouraged me to find–older (she’s forty), intelligent, and doesn’t work in a bar (she does online recruiting). She is athletic and enjoys hiking, occasionally joining our group hikes. She’s adventurous and has traveled to several Asian countries unaccompanied and backpacked on her own. I was smitten the first time we met, but the attraction was sadly not mutual. I understand her perspective; I’m old and can’t give her the baby she desperately wants. That’s the way love is–you can feel the destiny, and they are feeling “not gonna be.” C’est la vie. (originally, I spelled the French phrase wrong, despite having looked it up. Thanks, Kev!)

That was my night. And I’m alright with it. You never know what might be waiting for you around the next corner.











































































































































































































































































































































































