Last night at Hideaway

While I’m at it and still can, here’s the lowdown from last night’s feeding at Hideaway.

As usual, Sunday dinner came from Jewel Cafe. Chef salad, egg fried rice, ten chicken wings, and seven orders of pork sisig.

A couple of the feeders…
And the star of the show

I behaved myself, confining myself to San Mig Zero beer. I had several but didn’t cross the line. As I was walking down the highway contemplating my nightcap venue, once again, a trike driver called me by name and wanted to take me home. Upon reflection, I decided that was my best option, so I took it.

So, hopefully, I’ll be back tomorrow with a post about today’s Hash.

Until we meet again, I trust I won’t be a Long Time Gone.

Zeroing in

Welcome back, my friend! I’ve missed you!

I made it through my miserable hangover day. It reminded me of my COVID symptoms: no energy, light-headed, and without appetite. I took a day off from walking and just lazed around the house, napping off and on. By the time evening rolled around, I was feeling marginally better, so I ventured out to see what Saturday night held in store for me.

I kicked things off at It Doesn’t Matter, and waitresses Agnes and Juliet immediately noticed that something was off with me, And not just because I ordered a San Mig Zero instead of gins and soda. They commented on my wounds, and I had to tell the story of my sordid encounter with gravity the night before. I took my time downing two cold bottles (3% alcohol and 60 calories each), then decided I needed to have my first meal of the day.

IDM no longer serves food, but the Hops and Brews beer garden seemed like a good option, so off I went. I hadn’t been here since my first date with Lydell, but I couldn’t hold the restaurant responsible for that failed attempt at a relationship. Hops and Brews is a beer connoisseur’s dream with draft and bottled brews from around the world. I just wanted to stick with my new old favorite, Zero, but alas, that’s one brand they don’t carry. I had to settle for a San Miguel Light (5% alcohol and 100 calories) to wash down my tasty sweet and sour pork dinner. One beer here and out.

Next stop, BarCelona. Two Zeros consumed as I enjoyed the view of my former hangout, Cheap Charlies. My eyes are not good enough to make out faces from that distance, but the bar didn’t seem very busy. I wonder if the gals there are missing me my lady drinks largesse? Sorry seems to be the hardest word, right, Nerissa?

I’m happy to report that my drinking low-alcohol beer slowly strategy seemed to be working quite well. I wanted to finish my night at the scene of my crime, Wet Spot, to see if I had engaged in any behaviors that warranted an apology. Both my waitress, Irene, and owner, Dave, assured me that while I appeared to be having a good time, I had not been rude or otherwise obnoxious. Dave even bought me a beer!

So, after eight beers on the night, I went home with a light buzz but no discernable physical impairment. That’s always the goal. My Fitbit tells me I fell asleep at 8:40 p.m. and awoke at 3:47 a.m. That’s a tad early on both ends, but it suits me better than waking up on the floor, that’s for sure.

I am happy to report that I’m feeling back to normal today.

My facial wounds (forehead, under the eye, and under the nose) appear to be healing fine.

I did a 7K walk this morning that went well despite my being a little winded towards the end. Coincidentally, as I concluded my hike, I saw a sign for a new funeral parlor:

That’s a perfect name, as I’m sure their clients will indeed be breathless.

And I got a message from one of my former employees, Sherry Villanueva, and she sent me this photo of those long ago days when I was her boss in Korea.

That’s probably from around 2006 or so. I was not the Director yet but in charge of employee and labor relations. I hired Sherry as one of my staffers.

My favorite story about Sherry came immediately after I hired her. I interviewed by telephone, so I had never seen her before. She was the most qualified, so she’s the one I picked. I never gave a crap about EEO and their “underrepresentation” stats. I picked the best person for the job and didn’t care what color they were. Still, I assumed with a name like “Villanueva,” she was Hispanic, and EEO would tick off that box. I was surprised to get an email from EEO congratulating me on meeting my Pacific Islander goal. Yep, Sherry is a Filipina. What a world.

Anyway, Sherry only worked for me for a couple of years before starting a new job in the USA. We remained Facebook friends but very rarely had any contact. And now, she is returning to Korea to my old job as the Director, Human Resources Management for USFK/8th Army. Congratulations, and good luck to her! It’s great to see someone you mentored become such a success.

And the wheel in the sky keeps on turning.

UPDATE: I’m not sure if everyone is having the same issues I and at least one of my readers are having accessing my blog. I’ve tried to contact HostGator to see what the issue is but have not had any success with that either. The issue seems to come and go, so check back later if, at first, you don’t succeed.

An SOB kicked my ass last night

The drunk SOB I’m referring to. I don’t remember taking this selfie or much of anything else.

Gin and her pal Soda were accessories to the crime. Mary was a witness, and I guess that’s a good thing; otherwise, I’d have no recollection of what happened. Actually, I don’t recall much about my attendance at the SOB, but I must have had a good time. When the show was over, Mary and I took a trike back to my house. She said that I tripped and fell on my face when I exited the trike. The trike driver tried to help Mary get me back on my feet; then, a passing motorcyclist stopped to assist. I woke up on the floor of my bedroom in the wee hours of the morning, wondering what the fuck happened. Mary filled in the gaps, and from what she describes, I don’t know that I’ve ever been drunker. I know the hangover I’m suffering from today is one of the worst I’ve experienced.

So, I’ve come to a decision. I’m going to give up drinking. Gin. That’s right; beer belly be damned, I’m going back to Zero from now on. The trouble with hard alcohol drinks for me is I can’t monitor my level of inebriation–one minute, I’m fine; the next, I’m over the line. With beer, especially a low-alcohol beer like Zero, I can drink until I’m ready to stop without getting falling down drunk. I mean, I like a nice relaxing buzz, but I hate losing control of my mind and body. I’ve had two falls now on Gin, and it is just not worth pushing my luck.

In other news, we had a pleasant Friday group hike. Only four of us and we did the My Bitch trail from end to end.

Right around 8K with one climb.
Gathering at the start
And we’re off!
Up the steps in shanty town
It was a hot day, and the shade felt good
Come on up, Anne!
A shady spot to wait for the stragglers.
Barretto
Baloy
Kalaklan Ridge
Taking in the view
Grassy summit
That’s Rizal Extension down below
Easter mountain. Looks like I’ll be one of the Hares for the traditional Easter Monday climb to the top.
Getting it done
Back down on Rizal Extension
Looking back up at where we’d been

The day started better than it ended, that’s for sure!

Over sand and foam

Thursday is the day I make my weekly visit to the floating bar on Baloy. I really do enjoy the ambiance and gentle swaying on the water as I sip my gin and soda.

I should probably visit more often, but maybe the “only once in a while” aspect adds to the enjoyment.

Before the floating bar was relaunched, I got my sand and foam fix satiated at McCoy’s beach bar. I felt a little guilty about not being back since the floater option was available, so I resolved to pay a visit once I was back ashore.

The view from McCoy’s
And the view from my barstool

I would have preferred a seat with a better water view, but the late afternoon setting sun was shining brightly on that section of the bar. I was feeling a little hungry, but the only thing I saw on the menu that resonated was the chicken burger. Naturally, I got the “sorry sir, out of stock” response from the waitress. Ah, well. They don’t serve individual gin and soda drinks (you have to buy the bottle and drink shots Filipino style), so I was drinking San Miguel Light (no Zero beer either). Two of those, and I was off to find a more suitable venue for my dining and drinking needs.

I was a little buzzed at this point but still wanted to walk off those beer calories, so I did the jaunt from Baloy to mid-town Barretto.

As I passed Whiskey Girl, the manager, Mark, was seated outside, and we chatted a bit. Then he presented me with a VIP card for an upcoming customer appreciation party. I can drink for free with the card between 5–6 p.m. on April 27th. Woo Hoo! Thanks, Mark!

Further up the road, Mugshots was open, so I popped in to let them know they had missed out on the brownies I had prepared especially for them. As I suspected, they advised that their hours had changed, and now they don’t open until 6:00 p.m. I was the first and only customer, so I ordered my gin and soda and lady drinks for the three bar staff. The Mugshots menu has only a few items, but I don’t mind a small menu where everything is freshly prepared and done well. I went with the chicken wings.

They were delicious, as were the cole slaw and fries. Lots of wings too. I had enough left over for each of my companions to share in the bounty.

I enjoyed my visit to Mugshots, a comfortable and friendly place. I’ll be back. I might even bring some brownies with me.

I headed back out on the road searching for a nightcap venue and decided on Voodoo in keeping with my infrequently visited bars theme. There were a couple of people I knew at the back slapper’s table, and we exchanged greetings. My favorite dancer, an old-timer (literally in her 40s), Tia, was happy to see me after my long absence and joined me at my table for a lady drink. After a bit, I noticed the four remaining dancers on stage looked bored, and as I sometimes do, I wanted to give them a small tip in appreciation for their hard work. I asked my waitress to change two 100 peso notes into four 50s, and she returned saying they wouldn’t give me change. Hmm. You know, it’s no big deal, but it struck me as bad customer service and unfair to their employees. If I’m managing the bar, I send someone outside for change if need be, but that’s just me. It kind of killed my vibe, but I was probably under the influence of the alcohol I had already consumed, so I paid up and left. I grabbed a trike outside and was home and in bed before 9 p.m. Yep, that’s how I roll these days.

What else? Well, Facebook reminded me that one year ago, I took this photo of the house being constructed behind me:

And here is how it looks today. Still work being done, but the main construction appears complete. It doesn’t completely destroy my bay view, although I have to believe some type awning will be built over that rooftop patio. You can’t sit out there in the sun without one.

Oh, and remember that Philly cheesesteak sandwich photo from yesterday?

Didn’t taste any better than it looks

Well, today, John Kim of John’s Sushi and Steak fame posted on Facebook that his Philly cheesesteak sandwich is on special this week.

I can’t wait to taste the difference!

And I don’t do much politics these days, having learned that minds aren’t likely to be changed regardless, so what’s the point? I still see others who do, and the ensuing arguments are pretty sad to see. So, this seems to serve as an apt reminder to those who choose to engage in a war of words:

At least, that’s how I see it.

I’m planning on doing the SOB tonight, and it looks like Mary will be joining me for the event. I’ll let you know how it goes tomorrow.

Another Bluesday

Not saying it was a bad day necessarily; just a little bit off. I supposedly had a doctor’s appointment with an ENT specialist in Olongapo at 8:30 a.m., but when I arrived, I was told the doctor wouldn’t be in until 11:00. Apparently, there was a miscommunication with my helper, who confused office hours with the doctor’s hours. The way it works with most physicians is you show up and are seen on a “first come, first served” basis. Bullshit. I’m not sitting around for a couple of hours to see a doctor–give me an appointment, and I’ll be there. I know, I know, take a deep breath, relax, and accept the Filipino way. Hmm, nope, still not gonna do it.

Things didn’t get much better come evening time. The last time I visited Mugshots, the bartender said she was craving some of my brownies. I honestly didn’t recall ever bringing brownies there, but I promised her would bring some on a future visit. With nothing specific in mind for my night out, I set about keeping my word and baked up a batch. Now, I seem to recall that Mugshots opened late afternoon, so I was planning to share the brownies and try their food, which I’d seen receive positive reviews. I arrived around 5:00, and they were closed. Now what? I started to walk another block to Blue Butterfly but changed my mind. It’s not on my regular circuit, and I just wasn’t feeling it. Cheap Charlies seemed like a good fit, but I wanted to avoid the drama with Nerissa I experienced on my previous visit. Well, I decided that it was within my power to do so, and off I went. I honestly figured Nerissa wouldn’t bother to bother with me anyway.

As soon as I sat down, Nerissa came and sat next to me. I gave her a polite greeting and proceeded to ignore her. Once again, she didn’t express any regrets about ending our budding friendship so abruptly, and I really had nothing else to say to her (nor any poems to recite). After a bit, she took the hint and moved away to another stool. I had a couple of drinks alone (my other regulars weren’t working), then paid my tab and left. I still don’t understand the situation with her, and I’m a little pissed at myself for even caring. But whatever, I’m moving on.

I walk back to Mugshots, and they still aren’t open. Oh well, I guess it was just not meant to be brownie night there. I turn around and head up the highway, and figure The Green Room will be a place I can drink and order some grub from Sit-n-Bull. I’m far from a regular there, but it is still a friendly place. I order my drink and see that someone is having a birthday party, and the girls are all partaking in the cake. My poor brownies just can’t catch a break! The Sitn-n-Bull waitress arrives, and I decide to dine on a pork steak. I also get the waitresses in my section a pizza to share (cheaper than lady drinks!). I finish my food and drink(s), then me and my brownies depart.

Where to next? I had just been to Whiskey Girl the night before, but I figured Jenn would be a suitable recipient of my brownies gift. She was nowhere to be seen when I arrived, but another waitress fetched her for me. She said she had been eating, and I told her to go back and finish her meal. She refused and plopped down next to me. I told you she was sweet!

She seemed to enjoy my brownies as much as I enjoyed her snuggling.

I got a message from my pal Ron that he was going to Snackbar at 8:00. I responded that I’d had just about enough to drink, but I’d join him there for one on my way home. When I arrived, he wasn’t there. But my former love was, though. Cuddled up with her new husband. At least she took it outside, so it wasn’t in my face. I had a drink to drown my sorrows, bought one for my three favorites, then grabbed a trike for home.

What a day. Well, they all can’t be good ones, and I suppose it could have been worse. Hopefully, it will be a more pleasant experience feeding the girls at Hideaway tonight.

Oh, Facebook memories shared these photos I took of the National Highway in Barretto in March 2020:

Looking on the bright side of the scamdemic, at least it was easy to cross the road without the need to dodge trikes, jeepneys, and crazy drivers. Of course, there was no need to cross the street because every fucking thing had been shut down for the lockdown.

Those were the days, eh?

A well-marked trail

(With apologies to ZZ Top)

Hash shirt, hiking shoes
But I don't know where I'm goin' to
Fresh powder, bright chalk
And now I know where to walk

Gonna make it ON-HOME without any fails
'Cause Hashers go crazy about a well-marked trail

Steep hills, thick grass
But I ain't losin' my ass
Checkpoints, creek beds
But I'll keep movin' ahead

Gonna make it ON-HOME without any fails
'Cause Hashers go crazy 'bout a well-marked trail

Commenter Kevin asked for a post showing how a Hash trail is marked, so I will attempt to do so using yesterday’s trail as an example of a well-marked trail. The trail itself was overall the easiest I’ve done in recent memory. I forgot to turn on my tracker, but the Hare said the short trail was 4K. I finished in just over an hour, so I doubt it was actually that long.

The climb I did was of average difficulty and length, but damn, my poor old lungs were making me wonder if my days in the hills are numbered. I had to pause a couple of times to use my inhaler, but I finally made it to the top. After that, it was clear sailing without any issues. In fact, I was surprised to find myself at the proverbial end of the trail much sooner than I expected.

Let’s do it again through pictures, shall we?

The Hare, Yogini, did something a little unusual by demonstrating some of the markings we would encounter on the trail during the meet-up at the VFW.

So, you have the powder on the ground, which indicates you are on the trail. The chalk arrow points in the direction you should go, and the “1” confirms the marking is for the day’s trail, #1541. That’s important because we often encounter marks from previous Hashes, and without a number, you may follow an old trail. The circle with the “x” is a checkpoint. Some Hares will place a checkpoint when there is an intersection of trails. This requires the Hashers to explore the various options until they find the right path. If they come to the three lines, it means On-Back; you are on the wrong trail. You know you are on the right trail when you find a chalk or powder marker, which indicates you are “On-On!” I personally despise checkpoints and never incorporate them into my trails as a Hare.

The Hare provided last-minute guidance to the kennel at the VFW starting point.
And we are On-On!
A chalk arrow points the way.
And the powder on the ground affirms you are indeed on the right trail.
Ah, the dreaded checkpoint. The original intent and purpose of a checkpoint was to help close the gap between fast and slow Hashers. So, whoever got there first would explore the options, find the true trail, and then indicate the proper direction with a new chalk marking. That doesn’t happen here in the Subic Hash; it’s every Hasher for themself. And as the person who is perennially at the back of the pack, it just puts me further behind. I guessed right on my first try at this checkpoint, though.
Powder on a tree…
...and chalk on a rock
Do you see the arrow?
On-Up!
Each step is one step closer to the top.
By golly, I think we done it!
My little town
An Easter mountain view
Just follow the powder, and you can’t go wrong
One of the factors I consider important to a well-marked trail is frequency and consistency. There should always be some kind of mark when there is more than one option, like at an intersection. I also like to see a mark at regular intervals (I think every 50 steps or so is good). If I haven’t seen a mark in a while, I know I must have missed the trail, so I can turn around and find it.
Plodding along
These kids seem to know when I’m coming…
Let’s go thataway!
As usual, the runners on the long trail passed me before I finished the short trail.
Babes in the shade
Powder AND an arrow…I like it!
Made it to Alta Vista
Seems clear enough
Hard not to see that turn
We exited Alta Vista in an unusual way, climbing those steps up to the water tank, then coming back down through a squatter village.
The view of Alta Vista from the water tank. That’s actually the street I live on down there.
“Beer Near” is probably my favorite trail marking.
I know the way from here
On-Home at Johansson’s
A gathering of Hashers
I had the chicken cordon bleu for my post-hike nourishment
Hash Gash
Circle up!
It’s nice on ice!
A visiting Hasher from Puerto Galera is given a special Subic greeting
Watching the festivities
Here’s a useful tip: DO NOT wear new shoes to the Hash. Unless you want to drink out of them.
Turns out, it was also our visitor’s birthday. Happy 28th, and enjoy the cake we made you!

After the Hash, I had some more beer at Sloppy Joe’s. I even bought Jamaica a lady drink. When I was walking back towards my end of town in search of a nightcap, I heard Jenn calling out to me from across the highway at Whiskey Girl. So, I got to finish the day with some cuddling. That’s always nice!

Here’s the original version of the song I re-wrote for this blog post:

What it was

It was Sunday, and it went like this:

Mary was making a cookie delivery to my house at 1:00 p.m., so I promised her lunch. I teased her with this photo because she professes to love corn dogs. But what she got was chili and cornbread. She seemed to love that too.
My cookies for distribution to the kiddies I encounter on my hikes.

Mary joined me in the bedroom for dessert and a nap, then she left to make more deliveries, and I headed out for the Sunday feeding at Hideaway.

I’ve made Jewel Cafe the headquarters for Sunday dinner. It’s reasonably priced, the girls seem to enjoy it, and best of all, they deliver. I just drop by on the way to Hideaway, place my order, and hit the street. Last night it was four orders of pork sisig, two orders of chicken quesadilla, two orders of chicken wings, and a pork chop for Joy. Since I’d been otherwise occupied all afternoon, I got a dozen Dunkin’ Donuts for the girl’s dessert.

pork sisig
chicken wings
quesadilla
I neglected to get a photo of the grilled pork chop, but here’s one of Joy biting a quesadilla.
donuts for dessert

I sprang for a few lady drinks, got comped on a couple of mine, and had fifty dollar bar tab when I left (dinner was another thirty). That’s livin’ large, even by my standards, but like they say, you can’t take it with you when you go.

I was feeling no pain when I left Hideaway, but I didn’t let that stop me from dodging traffic on the highway as I made my way across town. I was thinking about Alaska but liked the idea of sitting outside at Sloppy Joe’s better.

As seen from my perch at Sloppy Joe’s. The girl on the right with her back to me is Jamaica. She used to work at Snackbar, and I was crushing on her at one time. She calls me Daddy, though, which I think is code for “you’re a fucking old man, leave me alone!” Her body language seems to be saying the same.

Alaska is right next door, so I made that my final destination for the night.

And as always, I enjoyed the beauty of Virginia. Maybe one of these days, I’ll explore more of Virginia.

Here’s some other stuff I came across:

The Babylon Bee has a story entitled: Man Disappointed To Learn ‘Quoting Monty Python’ Not A Marketable Skill. It made me laugh, especially in light of the fiasco that was me reciting poetry to Filipina bargirls.

I recently made a photographic appearance on an expat forum called PI@Night. “Exploring the PI with a focus on it’s colorful nightlife, from the expat and visitor perspective.”

Board members have an alias name, sort of like the Hash. I’m Walrus on PI@Night. Saturday night, we were all randomly together at the same table in Wet Spot. What are the odds?

Then a friend back in Seoul sent me a link to an old Flickr page of photos from the Seoul International Dart League. It was quite a stroll down memory lane with faces of people I hadn’t seen for many years. Here are a couple of my favorites:

Who’s that girl?
Who’s that fat guy on the left?
Where are they now? Last I heard, Dave was in Pennsylvania, Grant was in Baja California, and Alistair is in Scotland. The fat guy is in the Philippines and retired from darts.
I really was having the time of my life back in those days (circa 2008). I’m not sure I appreciated that fact at the time, though. Sometimes I wonder if I’m doing the same thing now. These might well be the best days of my life. And really, at my age, every day of living is a gift.

And finally, there is this:

It may not look like much now, but this vacant lot at the corner of Baloy Road and the National Highway, will soon be the location of Barrio Barretto’s newest dining establishment. It’s actually part of a chain you might have heard of–McDonald’s.

Alright, it’s Hash Monday, and I need to grab a nap and then get ready to hike. I will be back with more excitement tomorrow. Assuming I have one.

The most important things

“The most important things are the hardest to say. They are the things you get ashamed of, because words diminish them — words shrink things that seemed limitless when they were in your head to no more than living size when they’re brought out. But it’s more than that, isn’t it? The most important things lie too close to wherever your secret heart is buried, like landmarks to a treasure your enemies would love to steal away. And you may make revelations that cost you dearly only to have people look at you in a funny way, not understanding what you’ve said at all, or why you thought it was so important that you almost cried while you were saying it. That’s the worst, I think. When the secret stays locked within not for want of a teller but for want of an understanding ear.”

Stephen king

So, about last night. I hadn’t visited It Doesn’t Matter in quite some time, so I decided I’d start out there. I’m not sure why, but the vibe just felt different somehow, and not in a good way. Maybe it was just me. I decided to change things up with a visit to Cheap Charlies.

My longtime favorite, Alma, was back after taking time off to be with her visiting American boyfriend. She gave me a warm greeting and took my drink order. I was a little surprised when Nerissa pulled up a chair beside me. Well, she may not like me, but I guess earning a drink commission is still a priority. At first, I gave her a bit of a cold shoulder treatment, but after a couple of drinks, I lightened up some. I showed her a message I’d sent her after our last meeting that she hadn’t responded to, and she told me that’s not an active account. I reminded her I was blocked on the other one, and she just shrugged. For whatever reason, I felt compelled to recite some poetry from memory. This was the first one:

I ask but one thing of you, only one,
That always you will be my dream of you;
That never shall I wake to find untrue
All this I have believed and rested on,
Forever vanished, like a vision gone
Out into the night. Alas, how few
There are who strike in us a chord we knew
Existed, but so seldom heard its tone
We tremble at the half-forgotten sound.
The world is full of rude awakenings
And heaven-born castles shattered to the ground,
Yet still our human longing vainly clings
To a belief in beauty through all wrongs.
O stay your hand, and leave my heart its songs!

–Amy Lowell

The other girls seemed impressed. Nerissa just sat there with a blank expression. I don’t know why I can remember all the lines in a poem, but I am lucky to remember my name sometimes. Since I was on a roll, this poem came to mind:

Let it be forgotten, as a flower is forgotten,
Forgotten as a fire that once was singing gold,
Let it be forgotten for ever and ever,
Time is a kind friend, he will make us old.

If anyone asks, say it was forgotten
Long and long ago,
As a flower, as a fire, as a hushed footfall
In a long forgotten snow.
–Sara Teasdale

Reciting poems in a bar with loud music in the background is a pretty foolish thing to do, and I was not quite drunk enough to continue the effort. But when Nerissa came back from the CR and sat down on the other side of me, I leaned over towards her so I could speak privately. Then I began reciting the Stephen King quote from above. Nerissa stopped me about halfway through and said, “why do you quote poems instead of just saying what’s on your mind?” I guess I realized then that I was wasting my breath on her, so I ceased the effort to determine if there was any friendship left to salvage.

I had ordered some food from the restaurant downstairs, and when it arrived, I shared it with my bargirl crew.

Lumpia, chicken fingers, and wings.
The crew. You can see how happy Nerissa is to see me.
It might be time to find a different venue with less drama.

I departed Cheap Charlies, crossed the highway, and pulled up a chair in Wet Spot. I spent some time with owner Dave and met a couple of new folks. I must have overdosed on gin and sodas because I’d forgotten all about seeing Mary’s school friend, a dancer at Wet Spot until I uploaded the photos from my phone camera this morning.

I can recite a poem off the top of my head, but I can’t remember her name.
I had noticed her long before I met Mary. I think she is amazing looking.
I guess she is sending me a message here–is it “fuck you!” or “fuck me?”

Whatever. Even though I’m embracing the mantle of “player,” I wouldn’t mess around with the friend of someone I’m seeing. I don’t recall doing anything to piss her off, and I assume I bought her a lady drink, but who knows? The look on her face doesn’t convey a “nice to see you” vibe.

I made it home safe and sound, and we’ll see what happens next. Mary has a little sideline business selling snack foods, and I ordered some cookies to hand out on my hikes. She is supposed to be delivering them to me this afternoon. Then, later on, I’ll do the Sunday feeding at Hideaway.

And the wheel in the sky keeps on turning.

Good enough

That’s how my day was. See for yourself.

Started with a 7k valley walk
Three hiking companions joined in the fun
Easter mountain, as seen from the valley floor
Directionless.
We went thataway
Farm living

I mentioned in yesterday’s post that Mary wanted to join me when she finished an after-school event. She sent me these photos:

Some sort of pageant for International Women’s Month
It appears to have been well-attended.
One of the participants
And another
Mary paid (well, technically, I did) to have her make-up done for the event
I’d actually never seen Mary in make-up before she sent these photos. And she washed it all off before meeting me in Barretto.
Although she looks fine without it too

I had planned to start my night out at Cheap Charlies. And on a whim, I’d even baked up a batch of brownies to share with the girls there. But as I walked into town, I decided I didn’t want to have any drama around Nerissa, so I set a course for Hideaway instead. I know they like my brownies there. Everyone was surprised to see me come in on a Friday night, especially Joy. So, the brownies were dispensed, some lady drinks were purchased, and I, of course, downed some gin and sodas. And then Mary messaged that she was on her way, so I said farewell to the Hideaway crew and headed out.

I was ready for some food, and since John’s place was in close proximity, I told Mary to meet me there. We headed upstairs together, ordered some drinks (we both do the gin and soda combo now), and perused the menu. Mary professed not to be that hungry, so I ordered the beef bulgogi for us to share and an order of Korean-style chicken wings. The bulgogi comes with rice, and to my surprise, Mary said she doesn’t like rice. She’s the first Asian I’ve met who feels that way. So, I substituted the rice with cole slaw.

The bulgogi. Mary loved it.
And eight chicken wings. They were good, but we had four leftovers, and I gifted them to our waitress.
And the star of the show.

After our meal, I took Mary to Bar Barretto to hear some live music. Alas, the band was not due to start for another hour, so we went next door to Mugshots instead. It’s a cozy little bar I haven’t been to for quite a while. We were the only customers, and Mary and the bartender chatted away in Tagalog. Mary told me later that the bartender mentioned she was only the second woman she had seen me with (the other being my long-ago ex, Marissa). I guess that makes me a part-time player. But it also goes to show that gossip amongst the gals is a really big thing in these parts.

I’d had my fill of alcohol by now, so we took a trike back to my place. I made us a smoothie, and the next thing I remember is waking up next to Mary in the wee hours of the morning. She woke up too, and was feeling frisky. A nice way to start the day!

I baked some banana-walnut muffins to go with our morning coffee; then, it was time to walk the dogs.

The boys seem to enjoy Mary’s company as much as I do, and she also seems rather fond of them.

After the walk, I made us a breakfast burrito (well, it was my regular burrito, I just served it for breakfast). That went down well, too. Mary took the TV remote and started playing some tunes on the YouTube channel. I commented on the fact that the music she was enjoying was older than she was. She agreed, saying that music from her generation was too crude for her taste, and she preferred hearing the songs her grandparents had played.

When it was time to go, I told Mary she could join me at the Savers Appliance store and pick out a refrigerator for her house. She was, of course, pleasantly surprised. One thing that I appreciate about Mary is that she doesn’t ask for or seem to expect cash from me. I don’t give her money after our dates because I don’t like the feeling of our time together being on a quid pro quo basis. I was happy to gift her a fridge I knew she needed, knowing it would make her life a little easier.

While we were shopping at Savers, Mary’s grandmother, who lives nearby, came to the store to see Mary and meet me.

Two things stand out–the grandmother is actually YOUNGER than me! And, of course, her dark skin.

If I recall the story correctly, the grandmother’s father is an African-American Navy vet who was stationed here in the 1960s. It’s a funny world.

The shopping experience at Savers was not very pleasant because everything took forever to process, and none of it made any sense to me. Mary reminded me to remain calm and remember that I was in the Philippines. Of course, yes, I needed to accept the Filipino way. In addition to the refrigerator, I bought Mary a microwave oven. That should make her kitchen time more convenient too.

I will give Savers credit for prompt delivery.
Enjoy your new appliances!

Oh, Mary told me that her grandmother had asked her three times now if I was her boyfriend. Mary told her, “not yet,” which was something of a relief. I told Mary I’m not into labels like “BF/GF and all the baggage and expectations that come with those terms. I said I have enjoyed her company and spending time with her, and that was enough for me. She put a heart emoji on that comment, so hopefully, we are on the same page. Hey, I’m a “player,” after all; I can’t go around calling someone my girlfriend!

Time to split

Mary professed to enjoy the pork chop supper I prepared for her yesterday, commenting on how tender they were. That’s the advantage of crockpot cooking, I explained. She’s a bizarre eater. She ate all of her pork chops first. Then the garlic bread toast. But rather than picking it up and biting it as almost everyone else in the world does, she cut it up and forked it into her mouth, bite by bite. Lastly, she spooned the vegetable medley onto her plate and so completed her meal.

Mary comes across as a bit of a foodie, remembering everything I’ve cooked for her and saying how much she enjoyed it. I guess the way to her heart is through her stomach! She also posts food pictures on her Facebook, and she admits she has gained a bit of weight because she likes eating so much. She told me before that her favorite snack food is a corn dog. So, I picked up a surprise gift for her this week at Royal:

It turns out Mary doesn’t own a microwave or an oven, but she said she’d use the deep fry method to cook her gift. She wants to bring them home on Saturday and feed her Lola (grandmother) too. Why not take them with you today? Oh, she has no refrigerator, either. Well, I’m going to see about bringing some chill to her life.

There was no bedroom dessert this time, and I’ll confess to being a little disappointed. Mary wanted to go out drinking, so I got dressed, and we walked to the floating bar on Baloy Beach. She started out with a Coke but then decided to try my gin and soda combo. She liked it and says it is now her favorite alcoholic beverage. Damn, does that make me a groomer?

We sat and chatted, enjoying our time on the water while watching the sun go down.

I do love the unique views that come with drinking on the floating bar.

I wasn’t feeling too good, my lungs were acting up again, so I decided it was best to go back on shore. I was planning to introduce Mary to the McCoy’s beach bar, but once I started walking on the beach, I thought sitting back down was a better option. Treasure Island Resort was beckoning, so we had a seat at the poolside bar. It turns out Mary has a classmate who works at the reception desk, so she went off for a chat. I decided to surprise Mary with a dessert treat:

The bar waitress put this gem together right before my eyes. Been a long time since I’d had this kind of indulgence, and it was worth the wait.

We shared the banana split, and we had another gin and soda. It was still relatively early, but I wasn’t feeling it and thought I should spend some time at home with my nebulizer. So, we shared a trike back to the highway; I hopped out at the 7-Eleven, and Mary continued on to her home. Seeing how I was standing in front of Snackbar, I allowed myself a nightcap there before heading home where I belonged.

Still alive this morning, so I took that as a good sign. I made it through a flat 7K hike this morning and felt mostly okay. Mary wants to join me later this evening when she finishes an after-school event, so I suppose I’ll let her tag along for a bit on my bar crawl. Then we’ll see what happens next.

Oh, and commenter Kevin suggested that I go to the source (Filipinas) to determine if I’m truly perceived as a “player.” I posed that question to a woman I’ve known for a while without being romantically involved, and her response was a little surprising.

“You’re a flirt, John. You know that. So you are perceived to be flirting with a few girls. You’ve been in the Philippines for quite some time, yet you are still single despite being in a few relationships with local girls. Before I even got to know you, I heard the same stuff about you. We have a different culture. If, in your culture, being with another woman while dating or in a serious conversation with someone is okay, but we perceive it as guys treating us as an option, Playing multiple cards and seeing which card works. I guess Filipinas are vocal or more demonstrative of their feelings.”

Looks like I have my answer. And since I don’t want to be a disappointment, perhaps I should do what is expected of me and play the game. Apparently, I won’t have to do anything differently; I’ll just embrace the perception.

There you have it. Back tomorrow with more of this nonsense.

Taking a powder

Feedback from yesterday’s trail was mostly positive, although we could have done better marking in a couple of places where the path was unclear. Hey, nobody’s perfect! I’ll share the pictures that others took along with a few from me taken while laying the powder.

Our trail. The white line represents the shortcut (avoiding the second hill climb) for those so inclined. Or should I say, disinclined?
Gathering for the start at the VFW
And they are On-On for trail number 1540 of the SBH3
Halfway up the first climb
The view from the top of the first hill
In the foreground, you can see some of the powder I laid earlier that morning.
Dripping Pussy on trail
Leech My Nuggets with Stuart right behind him. Stuart got named during the Hash circle. I threw out a suggestion I thought was funny but that no one would get. To my surprise, the name I wanted got the majority vote. So, welcome to You Can Call Me Martha.
A couple of visiting Hashers from Puerto Galera
About where the short and long trails split
Easter mountain from the ground
And from the top of the second hill
Another view from the top
The long and short trails came together again in San Isidro
A little confusion about which way to go
That morning, we marked this burned-out truck hulk (see to the left of the window). And then someone moved the truck!
The trail came back through Alta Vista
And if you followed the powder, you cut through Purok 13…
…and found yourself on the Matain river
On Baloy Beach road
On-Home at Da’Kudos
Those of us who got On-Home early (you can’t drink until 3:30) spent the time on the floating bar.
Let the drinking begin!
It’s nice on ice!
Another Hash is in the books!

Highs and lows

This an earlier-than-normal post today because I’ve got a Hash trail to mark this morning. I prefer laying the powder the day before, but my co-Hare was unavailable yesterday, so here we go. We’ve got one or two hill options available, so hopefully, the kennel will be satisfied.

Here’s a low for you–Mary told me she had posted in one of the Barretto Facebook groups that she was looking for part-time work cleaning houses. Some dude responded with this message:

It’s hard to fathom what kind of asshole thinks it is appropriate to send a message like this to a total stranger. Honestly, I wouldn’t treat a bar prostitute with this kind of disrespect. Disgusting!

Mary reported him to the group administrator, so hopefully, this guy gets banned.

Speaking of Facebook, I hadn’t heard from Nerissa for a couple of days, so I went to send her a message only to discover she had blocked me on Messenger and unfriended me on Facebook. I have no idea why; everything was fine the last time I saw her on Friday night. I am thinking that maybe she saw me with Mary on Saturday evening during our rooftop visit at BarCelona.

That’s Cheap Charlies in the circle. You get a pretty good view of what’s going on at BarCelona from there.

I’ll try to stop in at CC tomorrow and see what’s up with her.

I guess to finish this post on a high note; I can show the Hideaway feeding photos from last night.

My new Sunday tradition is ordering dinner from the Jewel cafe and having it delivered. Pork sisig and chicken wings…
…lasagna and a chef’s salad were Joy’s selections
And brownies for dessert
Joy appeared satisfied with the meal

While I was busy imbibing at Hideaway, I got a message from Virginia that she had returned to work at Alaska Club. I told her I’d stop by for a nightcap later. And I’m a man of my (drunken) word!

Long time no see. Welcome back, Virginia!

Heh, I was just thinking of the incongruity of having to go to Alaska to see Virginia. Hideaway is next door to Arizona, so it makes for a long trip!

And that’s the state of things this morning.

MDWM

Here’s a quick post about My Date With Mary.

As I’ve mentioned, one of the things I find most attractive about Mary is she is a smart girl. Of course, smart girls tend to think for themselves and can sometimes be very willful. So, once Mary has her mind made up, there’s no changing it. She had it in her mind that she was going to spend the night with me. What could I do?

I suggested we start with some drinks, then have dinner, and I’d bring her home after. Those terms were acceptable to her, so we agreed to meet on the rooftop at BarCelona at 5:00 p.m. I chose BarCelona because it has some nice views and also because it is a bar I don’t frequent regularly…i.e., I wouldn’t have to deal with the prying eyes of one of my regular bargirls and any jealousy that may ensue.

Mary arrived about fifteen minutes late, which is what is known as “Filipina time.” In her defense, she was coming from Kalaklan, and catching a Jeepney on the highway at that time of day can be a pain as many are filled with passengers coming home from work in Olongapo City. I was on my second drink when she entered the bar.

I was a little surprised when Mary told me this was only the second time she had been inside a bar–the first being when I took her to Alaska Club for the SOB a couple of weeks ago. She ordered water and a coke, which is her choice, and I’m quite capable of drinking enough for the two of us.

That hill is the first climb on the Hash trail for Monday.
A bit of a bay view from our table between two resort hotels.
My second favorite view was watching the sun go down.
Of course, my favorite view was of my date.

We had some chit-chat and ordered a second round of drinks. I asked Mary where she would like to eat dinner, and she said, “I want the chicken fingers at Sit-n-Bull. Alrighty, then. We’ll save those ribeyes at John’s place for another time. Mary has a schoolmate who works at Wet Spot, and Sit-n-Bull delivers to Wet Spot, so I suggested we go there and visit her friend. Mary was up for that idea, and Wet Spot was right downstairs from us, so off we went. That makes three bars for Mary now if you are keeping score.

We grabbed an open table and settled in, only to discover that Mary’s friend wasn’t working, which is very unusual for a Saturday night. Oh, well. My regular waitress came and greeted us and took our drink orders. Mary had another soft drink, I had more gin and soda, and I also bought mywaitress a drink. The Sit-n-Bull waitress came by with a menu, and we ordered some grub. I did a roast beef dip, Mary got her chicken fingers (plus an order to go), and I bought a pizza for the waitresses to share.

And then things get a little fuzzy. I kept drinking; the manager, Bret, sent me over a drink on the house. A bit later, owner Dave came in and bought me a drink too. Mevelyn, the cute little dancer I barfined a while back for “cuddling only,” was onstage, and Mary thought she looked like a girl from her school, so I called her down to join us. It wasn’t the same girl Mary knew, but I got her a drink anyway. It turns out she is moving back home to the province next week. Good luck to you, sweetie.

Mary and my waitress asked if they could do tequila shots, and who was I to say no? Even if they do cost 200 pesos a pop. I think they both had two, but by now, I was over my gin capacity and in no condition to count. But it wasn’t long afterward that Mary and I were in a trike heading home.

STFU, can’t you see I’m on a date?

I made us a smoothie (banana, strawberry, mango, and pineapple), and we hit the hay shortly after. Well, rolled in it. I know I woke up with a sweet young thing next to me, and it was very nice for a change to have a warm body sharing my bed.

Mary joined me on the dog walk then I made us some breakfast–cheese quesadilla, tuna salad (as requested by my guest), tortilla chips, and salsa. By all appearances (disappearances?), she enjoyed her morning meal.

Mary is crazy about the salsa I use, so I gave her a jar to bring home.

Nothing special, really, but it is the best I’ve found locally.

And then it was time to end our time together. I offered to walk her home to Kalaklan (about 4K up the highway), but she declined, saying she preferred the Jeepney. I walked with her out of the neighborhood, spotted a trike, and sent her home in style.

Thanks for the company, Mary!

Scouting

My co-Hare and I did some scouting yesterday and pretty much finalized our trail for Monday’s Hash. We’ll go back out in the morning and put chalk on the trees and powder on the ground for the Kennel to follow.

The long version is a little over 8K with two hill climbs. The short trail only has one hill.
Stuart (foreground) was the only other person to show up for the Friday group hike, so we invited him to join us on the scouting expedition.
The beginning of the first climb
Near the top
A view from the other side of the hill
On the ridge
Down in the valley
Your day is drawing near, Easter Mountain
A farmer’s field, we had to find a way around
I get it that Korean food and culture is popular here, but who will read the Hanguel? I never see any Koreans in the countryside, although Korean men occasionally visit the bar scene.
A busy back street in San Isidro
Walking the plank
On the riverside
And the On-Home will be at Da’Kudos on Baloy Beach

That’s the trail; you can Relive the scouting adventure here:

https://www.relive.cc/view/vNOP4yY8n2O

Now, about my Friday night. I did decide to skip the SOB. Back in the old days (pre-scamdemic), I only attended the SOB once a month or so. When the SOB resumed last year, I went every week as a show of support and appreciation to the sponsoring bars. Lately, they have had more attendees than they can accommodate, so I can take a break and give my seat to someone else to watch the show.

I started out at Cheap Charlies, where I enjoyed some facetime with Nerissa. She’s definitely not the typical bargirl type, at least not yet. I need to decide if I want to take the next step toward a potential relationship. As with Mary, I’m just not sure I want to give up my freedom from drama and my ability to do as I please. I know some positives come with having a girlfriend, too, but damn, why risk it?

After I left Cheap Charlies, I was feeling a little hungry. Running through the options as I walked down the highway, I decided to pay Thumbstar a visit. It’s rare for me to patronize this venue for various reasons, but their shwarma shop was enough motivation to overcome them. Plus, a girl I met at Queen Victoria several months ago messaged me that she was working there now, so it seemed appropriate to pay her a visit too.

It was weird being in Thumbstar on a Friday night during the SOB. Thumbstar briefly was a participating bar in the SOB, but because of some disagreement over something, pulled out. And now Thumbstar’s management is engaging in a Bar Wars tactic–a competing event on Fridays they call the SOP. It’s ridiculous and, frankly, one of the reasons I don’t visit this bar very often, but by chance, here I was, experiencing my first-ever SOP. It’s nothing like the real thing, though. No dance competition, just the regular Thumbstar crew.

When I arrived, I saw Che, the former Queen Vic waitress, on stage dancing. So, I called her down to join me. She tried to order a bottled beer double lady drink for a whopping 350 pesos, but I put a stop to that, and she settled for a more reasonably priced single drink. I did buy her two (or maybe more), so it’s not so much the money as it is the principle. My waitress had difficulty understanding my drink order (a shot of gin in a tall glass and a can of soda water on the side). Seems simple to me, but it was confusing to her, and I admit I got a little frustrated and cranky with her. Felt wrong about being a grumpy old man, so I bought her a drink too.

The best part of the SOP is that drinks AND food are all buy one get one free. So, I got two chicken shwarmas for the price of one. Che wanted chicken, so the second order went to our waitress. The waitress wanted fries, so we shared those as well. The way I drink, every order is a double–the shot of gin and the can of soda. So, last night at least I could get my soda water for free.

And in a first for me, the waitress picked up my phone from the table and took a selfie without being asked (or asking permission). I didn’t care, of course, but joked that my wife would be very angry when she saw it. That made her nervous until I explained I was kidding.

The selfie of which I speak. Not really my preferred body type, but I’m sure some guys would get off on those boobs.
Che is definitely more my type. (I lifted this photo from her Facebook)

And then a two-week millionaire (the name we expats use for free-spending tourists) came in and called most of the dancers down from the stage to join him at his table. I snuck a picture of his bounty and their booties.

And yes, he bought them all bottles of beer at double lady drink prices. No wonder they love him!

I have to admit; I had a better time at Thumbstar than I expected I would. I decided to make Queen Victoria my nightcap destination, and I appeared to be the only customer in the bar. No idea how they stay in business, especially when they were paying a live band to perform with no audience. Anyway, I was joined at the bar by two friendly waitresses, and I enjoyed sharing a drink with them to end my night on the town.

And now it seems I have a dinner date with Mary tonight. There’s just no telling that girl no.

Oh, I almost forgot. I came across this post of mine from 2009, back in the days this blog has some substance. I found it especially interesting given what’s been going of late with the media covering up the sins of our government rather than reporting them to the people. Our founders believe a free press was the “fourth estate” that would help preserve our freedoms. Instead, they are facilitating their destruction.

Rockin’ on the water

My life consists of daily routines, but sometimes I change things up just to keep it interesting. Yesterday, instead of doing my regular Thursday solo walk, I did my standard Saturday walk. Talk about living life on the edge! And for the third Thursday in a row, I paid a visit to the Kokomo’s floating bar on Baloy. Hmm, I guess that qualifies as a new routine!

Waiting to be ferried to the floater
On board with some of my fellow passengers
At first, I thought it was a snake!
A look to the left
A look to the right
And the view dead ahead

I stayed aboard for a couple of hours, just relaxing and enjoying the vibe. Along with my gin and sodas.

And the sun went down on another day in paradise.

.Once I was back ashore, I decided some food would be the next order of business. Johan’s has a new owner and kitchen operation, so I popped in to give them a try. My friendly waitress greeted me by name, even though I’m rarely a customer here. She said she heard I was in her neighborhood handing out cookies on Wednesday, and she didn’t get any. Next time, I told her. Then one of the pool players there asked how my nephew Joshua was doing (Josh had stayed here during his visit). Say what you will about small-town living, but it does make you feel at home.

Anyway, I like the new menu better than the old one. A lot of these beach resorts will have 50+ options, and it always makes me wonder how any chef could learn to make all of them proficiently. I also wonder how you can keep all those ingredients from going bad. I much prefer a limited menu where I know all the items will be fresh and tasty. Johan’s new menu has fewer items, and if the quality of my first selection is any indication, all are going to be well prepared.

I kept it simple with a beef quesadilla. Might just be the best I’ve ever had, and there was more on that plate than I could eat in one setting.

I walked Baloy Beach road in the dark back to the highway and popped into Snackbar for my nightcap. Naturally, I wound up buying my four favorites working there a lady drink before I departed.

Living rich on a pension is one of the benefits of residing in a poor country, I suppose. But for what it’s worth, I do spend as much or more on others as I do on my own selfish indulgences.

And now it’s another Friday night. Not sure if I’m going to make the SOB or not. Had a long hike today (over 8K with two hills), scouting some more for Monday’s Hash trail. I think we’ve come up with a good one. I’ll share more on that tomorrow.

Onward!

Hare-brained

I got drafted to be one of the Hares for the Hash next week. Only one other person showed up for the Wednesday Walkers group hike, so I drafted him to help me scout a trail.

Thanks for the help, Ed.

The On-Home venue next week is Da’Kudos on Baloy Beach. I used always to enjoy walking the river bank to Baloy, but someone blocked access a couple of years ago. I wanted to see if anything had changed recently, so off we went. Before we reached the cutoff to the Baloy road, a woman said, “you can’t get through there, it’s closed.” Damn. But then she told us, “you can come this way” and led us through her yard and pointed to a path leading to the road. I thanked her gave her some cookies and asked if we could have a group come this way on Monday and she said that would be fine. So, we’ll have something new next week at least.

Once we were on Baloy I suggested we do my idea for the trail in reverse and that worked out fine. My co-Hare is going to add a loop with another climb (my trail only has one hill) so the die-hards will be happy. We’ll finalize our plans this weekend and mark the trail on Sunday or Monday morning.

We did almost 8K yesterday, but it was the flat portion. It should be a good trail for everyone with the hill options included.

I baked a carrot cake for the Hideaway feeding last night. Actually, I added raisins to the recipe, so it was technically a carrot-raisin cake I guess. The girls went crazy for it and it disappeared quickly. I got lazy and sent Joy out to buy whatever food the girls wanted. She came back with fried chicken and some pancit, a Filipino noodle dish, and that was popular with the girls too.

What pancit looks like.
How is it, Joy?
Yummy!

Eating, drinking, and some pool filled the hours at Hideaway. It took Joy three games to beat me twice this time, so I guess that shows some improvement on my part. Griff, the manager, is trying to recruit me for a new dart league team, but I’m really not sure I want to get back into that routine. We’ll see if the bug to play bites me again.

Did my nightcap at Wet Spot, then brought home some chicken fingers and a slice of pecan pie from Sit-n-Bowl. Went to bed fat and happy.

Yes, it does. Enjoy it while you can.

Doubling down

The sceince is settled!

Another week, another cart of groceries. I changed things up a little this time by visiting both of the large supermarkets on the old Navy base. Sometimes Pure Gold has items in stock I can’t find at Royal, so I’ll pop in there every couple of months for a look around. Found some things on sale, but nothing I can’t get elsewhere. I’ll check back in May.

I was surprised to find Buddy waiting for me in the dog food section at Royal, though.

It was my friend Nerissa’s birthday yesterday, and I asked if she had any plans. Alas, she said she had to work because, on Tuesday, the RSL (the Australian version of the VFW) comes in mass to Cheap Charlies, so none of the girls can take off work. It’s too bad she had to work; I was hoping to take her out for a birthday dinner. The RSL are good blokes, but they fill the bar up when they are there, and it gets a bit loud and uncomfortable for an outsider. So, I tend to avoid CC on Tuesdays.

Still, I wanted to do something for Nerissa on her special day, so I baked up a batch of brownies and slipped 500 pesos in a red envelope for her. I arrived at Cheap Charlies around 4:30 and was relieved to see the invasion of the RSL hadn’t started yet. As I walked through the door, I saw Nerissa’s smiling face–as she drank a bottled beer with a customer. Well, that’s her job, and I get that it is first come, first served with the girls, as it should be. My problem was that it seemed awkward and rude to interrupt her interaction with her benefactor by presenting my gifts. So, I sat on the other side of the bar to wait things out, occasionally looking over my shoulder to check on her progress. I was soon besieged by two other bar girls and naturally treated them to the drinks they were craving.

SINGLE lady drinks. I never knowingly buy a double lady drink, which in Cheap Charlies is a bottled drink. I’m not sure why it is, but paying 250 pesos for a bottle of beer just irks me somehow. It’s not really even about the money; I bought my girls two 130 pesos single drinks each, but just the thought of paying more than three times the customer price for a “double” drink feels like a scam to me. Now, I’ve had guys tell me that it takes twice as long for the girl to finish a bottle of beer than it does a mixed drink, so it saves them money in the long run. Maybe so, but I don’t buy double drinks as a matter of principle. One girl told me they get a 120 peso commission on a double and 80 pesos for a single drink. So, my two drinks are better than a double attitude is a good deal for them.

And then the RSL guys started arriving in force. I glanced at Nerissa; she was just starting another bottled (double) drink, which meant her customer wouldn’t leave anytime soon. So, I paid my tab, tipped my company, and prepared to leave. I took the brownies and envelope and gave them to another gal I know and trust and asked her to get them to Nerissa when she was free. Nerissa called out, “thanks for coming!” as I departed.

When I woke up this morning, I saw a message from Nerissa (the girls can’t use their phones during working hours):

Thank you for a delicious brownies and for your visit john.. You are so sweet… I like u a lot..my birthday is complete because of you

You are most welcome, Nerissa.

I treated myself to a Sit-n-Bull meal, had a couple more drinks at The Green Room, and finished my night cuddling some with Jenn at Whiskey Girl. Once again, I was in bed before 9:00. I’ve become such an old man, it seems.

Facebook did remind me of some relatively younger days during my Seoul life with my buddy Duke:

Hooters and Korean gals seem to be a contradiction in terms. I believe this Hooters franchise in Apujeong has long since closed. The girls may have been flat-chested, but then again, more than a mouthful is a waste.

And I just now received a message from one of my female Facebook “friends” I’ve never met before in person:

Hello John when I can taste your cock😊

Seen by Lorna Cabrera at February 14, 2023 at 6:39 PM

Um, most likely never, but thanks for asking.

What a life I have here, eh?

Take care of that foot, Kevin! I don’t want my level of tolerance to be tested.

Halfhashed

Half a trail is better than none, I suppose. And while I avoided a couple of hills, my trail, including the distance gained when I walked to the start from my house, was a respectable 8K.

The red line is the trail as planned by the Hares. The white line is the handicapped modifications.
So, my trail looked like this with the 3+K walk to the start.
In the ‘hood
Leaving the ‘hood
On the National Highway
Arriving in Barangay Calapacuan (Cal-ah-pock-u-on)
The start of the modified trail at the Calapacuan market street
That’s Pubic Head in the background enjoying his first Hash trail since breaking his ankle a few weeks ago. Buddy Fucker and his gal, Fuck Buddy, and I constituted the group that walked the handicapped trail.
We got this!
Yep, you can see Easter mountain from here.
Our path was mainly the second half of the Hare’s trail. This trail marking indicates we should take a climb up and over Black Rock. “Fuck that!” was our response.
These flat paved streets worked just fine for us.
Good to know where this place is if I ever need me a BJ.
Where does this narrow passageway lead?
We did have one climb ahead of us…a hundred steps or so…
Let’s get on with it, then
Pubic Head takes a breather on the way to the top
Almost there!
The view from here
The first of the runners from the long trail to catch up with us.
Here comes Anal Receptive
Leech My Nuggets, one of the Hares, catches me in this alley near the trail’s end.
Further up the alley, I was surprised to see a former Hasher, Arcel (on the right), and her child. Naturally, I made a cookie delivery.
Our On-Home venue was Smokes and Bottles.
The Hash circle in progress
Um, not to be a dick about it, but…
Another Hash birthday cake, this time for Titanic Dickhead
Not a bad day, all and all.

When the Hash was over, I walked back to Barretto and stopped at Snackbar for my nightcap. It was nice to visit with one of my old favorites there, Heidee, again. During our conversation, she asked me how my girlfriend was doing. I was surprised and told her I didn’t have a girlfriend, then asked what made her think I did. Heidee said to me that Lydell and another Snackbar waitress saw a girl on the Jeepney, and she had a keychain with my picture on it.

One of these.

A friend had gifted me several of those key chains, and I gave them away to some young women I know. I’m unsure who it was on the Jeepney, but she wasn’t my girlfriend. This is just another example of how everyone *thinks* they know your business in this little town. Kinda scary, in a way.

This provides a good segway to me telling about some edits to yesterday’s post. I had revealed some private and personal information about someone I know, and a regular reader commented that I was wrong to do so. When I took a step back and looked at it again, I realized he was right to call me out on it. It was not my intention to cause anyone pain or shame, but if the information that I shared came back to her, she would likely be devastated. No excuses; I just wasn’t thinking about the potential repercussions. I appreciate that thanks to this reader, I was able to make the edits shortly after publishing the post, and hopefully, no damage was done.

I tend to forget that this blog isn’t a personal diary and that what I share has a potentially larger audience than I imagine. Perhaps some with bad intentions. Like that Dick who tried to use my sketchy history with love (i.e., four marriages) to undermine my relationship with a woman I cared about. You’d think I’d have learned by now.

Are you talking about me? Well, I guess if the shoe fits, I’ll have to wear it.

Anyway, I’ll try and do better in the future. I have taken to changing the names of some of the people I write about here. Going forward, I’ll keep in mind that some things may be best left unsaid. But don’t worry, dear readers; I’m quite sure that I’ll continue to serve as a bad example.

Lunch and dinner

Mary wanted to come over and have lunch with me yesterday. I didn’t really have anything on hand to prepare a proper lunch and suggested we meet up at a restaurant instead. But Mary insisted that anything would be fine, and so I relented. She arrived shortly after noon, and I served cheese nachos with salsa and tuna salad for our meal. She seemed to enjoy it.

After lunch, we had dessert in the bedroom and then a nap in each other’s arms. It felt nice holding her. Given what Mary has been through, I don’t think I’ll suggest being her “Sugar Daddy.” Still, I’ve told her I’m willing to support her continued education and encouraged her to prioritize her studies over work (she’s been looking for a job as a housekeeper). I gave her some cash to pay expenses for the semester that starts today.

Around 4:00, I walked Mary down to the highway, where she caught a Jeepney for her home in Olongapo City. Then I headed to Jewel Cafe to order some grub for the Sunday feeding at Hideaway Bar. I like Jewel for its reasonable prices and that they offer free delivery–I appreciate not having to sit around waiting on my order. I did go a little overboard, though, as my food bill was around 2000 pesos.

The bounty included fried chicken, spaghetti, pork sisig, and lumpia. And a dozen Dunkin’ Donuts for dessert.
Joy and all the other gals seemed satisfied with their meal

I had a few drinks, bought a few, played some pool (Joy kicked my ass again!), then I said good night and headed on up the highway.

The next (and last) stop was Cheap Charlies, where I spent some quality time with these two lovelies.

My Fitbit says I was asleep at 8:30. I’m such a lightweight these days. Well, maybe lightweight is the wrong word. At yesterday’s weigh-in, I was dishearted to see I had GAINED a half pound last week. Hopefully, that was an aberration.

Facebook memories provided a glimpse of how I was looking in years gone by:

More hair, less belly. Circa 1973.

My internet time also revealed this article listing eleven Hollywood movies that were filmed here in the Philippines. I’d heard of some of them, most famously Apocolypse Now, which was filmed nearby. Others I had no clue about. It might be fun to give some of them a watch and see if there is anything I recognize.

And here it is, Hash Monday once again. Scott is making his return from a broken ankle today on a modified and shortened version of the Hare’s trail. I’m going to join him so he won’t be out there alone. Truthfully, I was debating whether I wanted to do a long trail that is starting all the way out in Subic town. When I saw what Scott had in mind as an alternative, I liked it. I will walk the 3K to the start of Scott’s trail to add some distance to today’s effort.

Full report on how it goes tomorrow.

Laid back Saturday night

Just going with the flow. When you don’t have a plan, everything goes as planned.

I started out at It Doesn’t Matter. Thought I might run into someone I know there, but the place was pretty much dead. Even so, when my glass was empty and no waitress could be bothered to come out to check on me, I went inside, paid my tab, and left.

I was feeling a little hungry and wanted to check on John, so I headed up the road to his place. I didn’t see him when I first arrived because he was sprawled out on his recliner behind the bar. I did ask how he was doing later, and he shrugged and said, “at least I’m still alive.” I told him that’s a good thing and to keep fighting. He wasn’t looking so good, though.

The view from my seat at John’s while waiting for my meal to be served.
It had been quite some time since I’d enjoyed some Mexican food, so I went with the chicken enchiladas. It was more than I could finish.

Since I was making a semi-rare visit to John’s, I figured I’d order some take-out for the girls at Hideaway, conveniently located almost directly across the highway.

Crappy picture, but the girls love the Korean-style wings. I brought sixteen wings, and they were gone in minutes. And yeah, I know it wasn’t feeding day (that’s today), but it’s fun to surprise them occasionally. Plus, I had to drink somewhere, so why not at Hideaway?
In Joy.

Some drinkin’ and dancin’ and singin’ along with my favorites. Like this one:

I finished the evening at Wet Spot and had a pleasant time interacting with the boss at the VIP table.

Nothing much else to write about today. Mary says she’s coming for lunch, so we’ll see how that goes. Tomorrow, then.