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Yeah, I stopped into the bar last night to get the lowdown. She’s the head waitress and apparently, there was some kind of revolt amongst some of the staff, and people were fired. She spent the night at a friend’s house and apparently slept through my messages. Still no excuse for not canceling the night before in my opinion though. She apologized again and I let it go. As you correctly note, it wasn’t really a courtship effort–I was charitably paying for an eye exam and hoping to get a lunch companion in exchange. Moving on is no big deal in this case.
» Posted By John McCrarey On 30/December/2021 @ 6:47 am
Yeah, Rai missed us in northern Luzon completely but it was incredibly destructive where it did make landfall. I actually felt bad because I didn’t realize how severe the damage was and didn’t reach out to someone I know living in that area to offer assistance. I need to do better.
Almost all the kids I encounter take “wala” (nothing) in stride. I pass out cookies as long as they last, but NEVER give money to kids when they ask. I understand doing so is technically against the law and I really don’t want to encourage begging behavior.
» Posted By John McCrarey On 29/December/2021 @ 6:39 am
Well, caring for and being cared for is what I meant–and with sincerity, not pretending. But yeah, you can’t buy that kind of love.
I’m open to love but won’t pursue it actively. If it happens, I’ll know it. And in the meantime, there are plenty of candidates to provide companionship along the way. I’m a lucky devil to have access to so many lovely angels.
» Posted By John McCrarey On 28/December/2021 @ 6:47 am
“Looking forward to reading about more shenanigans in 2022.”
Ah, the things I do for my readers!
Yeah, it’s been one week today since Pearl walked out on me. A painful disappointment for sure, but better to find out now, rather than later, the true nature of her character. I actually feel sorry for her when I think of her future with Dick, but wish her well regardless.
I’ll take it slow for now and drown my loneliness in beer and bargirls.
» Posted By John McCrarey On 27/December/2021 @ 7:06 am
Jerry, send me an email to lngtimegne@aol.com
Just a few old posts have been password protected. I don’t intend to make it the norm around here.
» Posted By John McCrarey On 26/December/2021 @ 1:33 pm
Thanks, guys! Here’s hoping for a sane 2022!
» Posted By John McCrarey On 26/December/2021 @ 8:20 am
Well, cute enough I suppose but just not satisfying.
» Posted By John McCrarey On 28/December/2021 @ 6:41 am
Brian, I use my credit card at the grocery store and department stores. Restaurants and bars almost never accept them here. I don’t have a local bank account (hard to open one on a tourist visa) so all my money is in the USA. ATMs are the easiest way to access that case for my daily living expenses.
» Posted By John McCrarey On 25/December/2021 @ 8:28 am
Kev, I do recall how frustrating the sidewalks of Seoul were. Folks walking three abreast is ridiculously slow. Or just stopping in front of you to look at their phone. Still, I miss those first-world problems sometimes… 🙂
» Posted By John McCrarey On 25/December/2021 @ 7:00 am
HaHa! I was there before 5 and his table was full at least. A good vibe in Wet Spot and that’s what attracts me. Well, the girls attract me too, but you know what I mean… 🙂
» Posted By John McCrarey On 25/December/2021 @ 6:58 am
Hey QP, yeah some of my most recent posts needed to be protected from the prying eyes of small-town gossips. If you shoot me an email I’ll provide you with the password to see them all.
» Posted By John McCrarey On 24/December/2021 @ 9:45 am
Chip, I’m glad you got the reference! Sometimes my puns don’t work out the way I planned in my head…
Frank, email sent.
» Posted By John McCrarey On 24/December/2021 @ 6:15 am
Yep, I’m with you all on this–looking forward, not back.
And Bill, if (when) she winds up with Dick it will be a sad day. Mom facilitated getting me out of the picture but subjecting her daughter to this loser won’t end well. I warned her and hopefully, she’ll be smart enough to stay away. Or get out quick like she did with me.
» Posted By John McCrarey On 23/December/2021 @ 6:18 am
QP, yes she has a boyfriend and from what I’ve seen they are in love (holding hands walking down the street). She is a cutie, and sometimes when she is inside my place doing her chores in sexy shorts I have to remind myself of my HR sexual harassment training…
» Posted By John McCrarey On 23/December/2021 @ 6:22 am
Someone told me after my first disappointment with a Filipina: “John, do you know what you say when a relationship ends in the Philippines? Next!”
Dave, actually a visit to Wet Spot is next on my list. See you soon!
» Posted By John McCrarey On 22/December/2021 @ 6:01 am
Brandon, yeah. I knew when he won the mother over to his side I was probably in trouble. I guess the mark of my love for Pearl is that I’ll feel very bad for her if she winds up with that Dick. I expect she will though.
» Posted By John McCrarey On 21/December/2021 @ 8:29 am
Yeah, I’m a punny guy! The clue was in the first sentence “wanted to pause a moment”. Glad you figured it out, even if you missed the humor.
Maybe you’ll like this joke: A guy is flirting with a pretty young woman and says, “I’d tell you a joke about my penis, but it is too long.” The woman responds, “I’d tell you one about my vagina but you’ll never get it.” Bada bing!
Yes, I did have that “Yule log” thought. Happy memories!
» Posted By John McCrarey On 21/December/2021 @ 8:26 am
No problem, Brian. You make some fair points. I’m not actively seeking out women in their 20s for a relationship. Meeting Pearl was a fluke and I only pursued when she indicated interest. But yeah, the age gap does have implications for not being able to maintain an emotional connection. I’d say “lesson learned” but you know me…
» Posted By John McCrarey On 21/December/2021 @ 10:12 am
Terry, “pig vomit”, that’s a good one! I hope she is smarter than to actually hook up with Dick, but I have my doubts. I’ll be fine, it’s always good when someone reveals the true nature of their character.
Dan, I deserve an “I told you so”. The warning signs were all there, I just tried to ignore them. Thanks for the Burns poem, although I’m not sure I understand it completely, maybe I’ll try Google translate. 🙂 Yeah, I’m blessed. I’ll just sit back and wait for the next big thing.
Kev, yes, it was quite a ride. I’ve considered what I would do if she wanted to try again. Honestly, I hope I’d have the strength and wisdom to say no. Probably better if she doesn’t ask. And yeah, that “amputate” method is what I find most hard to forgive. Who walks away from love over a disagreement or misunderstanding? If it ain’t worth fighting for, it ain’t love.
BW, glad to be so entertaining! 🙂
James, that’s one way to look at it I suppose, but from my perspective, I was only asking for what a girlfriend is supposed to offer–companionship. That she preferred the company of her “customers” really tells me all I needed to know. And yeah, life goes on, I’ll be fine.
Chip, all the good nurses must be taken! But yeah, that’s really what I want–a woman who’ll stay by my side through thick and thin, take care of me in good times and bad and share in my adventures. I’ll give the same in return.
QP, yeah, nothing ventured, nothing gained. Sorry it ended the way it did, but thems the breaks.
» Posted By John McCrarey On 21/December/2021 @ 8:19 am
BW, Yeah, our hiking groups have gone there several times after our hikes. It seems like a lame excuse to me. Not that it matters now.
» Posted By John McCrarey On 20/December/2021 @ 9:31 am
Brian, no, actually Pearl is well-aware of want Dick wants–he tells her every fucking day! Why she puts up with it in the name of “friendship” is the mystery. I don’t see any way this ends well for her though. If she succumbs to his advances, she’ll have a loser for a boyfriend. If she continues making him a priority over me, she will lose me as a boyfriend.
» Posted By John McCrarey On 20/December/2021 @ 7:18 am
Kev, once again, thank you for the insightful comment. Very helpful for keeping things in perspective.
Yes, I am confident Pearl is being honest about her feelings towards Dick, but she knows that Dick still wants much more than friendship. I’ve warned her Dick is a disaster waiting to happen and she would be better off without him in her life, even as a friend. She’s not willing to cut those ties and that’s concerning.
I really don’t know Dick well, nor do I want to. But from conversations I have had or overheard with him, he comes off as a typical blowhard. I’m not sure what his profession is or was, but it most recently involved work in the Middle East. He makes it sound as if he’s some kind of spy, or maybe I’m just reading that into what he says. He’s also a notorious name-dropper, bragging about all his connections. One night he was talking about how is friends with the infamous Imelda Marcos. Maybe it’s all true, hell if I know or care. But yeah, I do need to watch my back.
Yes, he’s the stereotypical waste of life expat. Literally spends all day every day at Pearl’s place drinking. No way I could live that lifestyle. Even when I spend my evening hours in the bars, I need to move around. Can’t stand being in one place for too long.
» Posted By John McCrarey On 20/December/2021 @ 7:13 am
QP, yes that is Jerlyn. 23 and reportedly a cherry girl. She says I’m like a daddy to her, so I don’t guess I’ll ever find out! Very sweet gal though, and one of my favorites.
» Posted By John McCrarey On 19/December/2021 @ 9:00 am
Kevin, HaHa! I keep asking her what she wants for Christmas. I guess I should just give it to her, good and hard. And oh yeah, she can indeed be vicious.
» Posted By John McCrarey On 19/December/2021 @ 6:16 am
Dave, Yeah, I guess that’s why Pearl tolerates him–good for business. My feelings don’t pay the bills…
» Posted By John McCrarey On 18/December/2021 @ 2:17 pm
Thanks, guys. Maybe things aren’t a clear-cut as I imagined…
» Posted By John McCrarey On 18/December/2021 @ 6:57 am
Bars of Barretto: Cheap Charlies
Brian, thanks for the memory! No, it wasn’t me that stood the fast way down from Dolce Vita, but I saw and heard of it happening many times. One regular at DV was actually very seriously injured during his fall.
And yeah, I hadn’t realized why those steps at Cheap Charlies looked so familiar…
» Posted By John McCrarey On 19/December/2021 @ 6:20 am
Soju, Ha! I know that song and it’s a good one. I admit I hadn’t considered its message as being directed towards my current situation, but it is something to keep in mind.
Mama is doing mama–living on the street but seemingly happy to do so…she is always so happy to see me, smiles, and tells me “I love you, papa”. Best 100 pesos I spend all day!
» Posted By John McCrarey On 17/December/2021 @ 12:36 pm
BW, those are fair points and I too wondered why she didn’t just come out and say she has a boyfriend. Her story was she didn’t want to lose a customer. Anyway, I think things resolved themselves last night. I’ll post about it later today.
Brian, those kids are group members’ children.
Yes, I’ve ended the FWB program. I’m still giving some support occasionally, but with no strings attached–just a straight-up donation. To clarify that 100 peso tip situation–those were more friends than bargirls–the Alley Cat crew that I’ve been knowing since I moved here. Giving a personal tip in that fashion eliminates the need to share in the tip jar. Also, it is not as lewd as it sounds–I never touch skin, just drop the money into the cleavage. But to your larger point, yes, Pearl has made similar arguments vis-a-vis my interactions with bargirls. But at my worst, I don’t come close to the grab-ass antics of Dick.
» Posted By John McCrarey On 17/December/2021 @ 12:29 pm
«« Back To Stats PageThirsty, great to hear from you again. And thanks for the insights. Although Pearl’s place is really a restaurant more than a bar, she’s getting quite a few drinking customers, mostly us expats. There are no drinking girls or extra waitresses available to entertain the customers. She seems to be attempting to fill that void and that led to my GRO joke. She has told me that Dick is just a good customer who brings in a lot of friends and she is trying to navigate those waters and not lose his business because she rejects his overtures. I get that.
Kev, yeah, whacked in a sick and twisted way. Pearl had been adamant that she doesn’t want me to confront him directly. Something happened last night though that may have gotten the message across. I’ll tell that story in today’s post.
Rascal, thanks again for making the effort to share your words of wisdom. Yeah, I’m not going to do the “military” approach, that would potentially create bigger issues and land me in jail. Merry Christmas to you! Hang in there, getting old sucks but it beats the hell out of the alternative!
» Posted By John McCrarey On 17/December/2021 @ 7:12 am