Continuing on with yesterday’s theme, it turns out there are worse things than nothing. Yeah, I already knew that but bear with me.
Met up with some friends/Hashers for a few beers at Cheap Charlies. Always nice to have company and some folks around to punish with my witty repartee and bad jokes. When they’d had enough of that nonsense I wasn’t ready to call it a day, so I moseyed over to Mango’s for some beachside drinking and dining (I had chicken fingers so that counts).
Anyway, there is a gal there who works in the front office that I call Gee. I always say hello when I pass by her desk and she offers a smiling response for my effort. I find her quite attractive in a mature, non-bargirl kind of way. She wasn’t working when I arrived last night but as I was sipping my beer she came out on the back patio to greet me. That was a first! We chatted a bit and I asked her if she was a manager at Mango’s and their sister resort, D’Kudos. She nodded and said, “actually, I’m an investor in both”. I’m not sure what got into me (besides the beer of course) but I started asking her more personal questions. Like how old are you (39) and do you have a boyfriend (not currently). I then asked her why an attractive woman such as herself didn’t have a boyfriend and she told me that she hadn’t found the kind of man she’s looking for. My oh my! My next question was the obvious one: “would you like to get together with me for dinner sometime?” She looked at me in a peculiar way, maybe it was pity or maybe she found me pathetic, and simply said “no.” She did add that she appreciates my support of Mango’s and hopes to see me dining there often.
Ouch. After Gee walked away the sky and water took on an odd red hue. Maybe mother nature was blushing after witnessing my humiliation.
This morning I joined up with Scott, Jim, and Troy for a steep climb and hot walk.
Going to attempt a light bar crawl tonight. Captain’s Arms and Wet Spot have both reopened. And I’ve promised the door girls at Alaska that I’d visit the bar “soon”. A man is no better than his word after all. And I know how it feels to be rejected.
Well, since you’re an eternal optimist like Sam Axe in “Burn Notice,” I imagine there are other fish in the sea.
The climb looks to have been harsh. I would’ve hated it. On the bright side, with all the watering holes opening back up, life seems to be returning to your locale.
Since you’ve never mentioned it, I guess you don’t have to worry about ticks or other insects there? Here, there’s no way I’d venture into foliage like that
Kev, yep I’m optimistic and reasonably certain I will get fooled again. And while the bars may be open they have not returned to life. I’ll post more about that soon.
Frank, oddly enough pesky insects have really not been a problem here. The dog might pick up an occasional tick but I’ve never had one bite me. In fact, the only thing on trail that has been a nuisance is ants. They are everywhere–on the ground and in the shrubs. Sometimes they get on you as you make your way through the brush but they don’t bite hard and are easily flicked away or squashed. Even the mosquitos have not been a big deal which was really a surprise.
Ha I live high enough up that I don’t have a mosquito problem. I do have a lynix, bobcat, coyote, and hugh owl issue. Must watch my little dogs.
Hi. Long-time reader, first-time commenter.
I stumbled upon this blog while researching retirement options in Subic. This has been an eye-opener.
Your writing is unfiltered, unique and informative to those of us who may wish to follow in your footsteps. Your willingness to self-analyze is breathtaking.
On the subject of rejection,I share your pain. I am sure you will be missed at Mango’s restaurant if you choose to let this episode deter you from visiting.
I read about a man who decided to ask people different things for 100 days straight, just to get to say he experienced 100 days of rejection. So severe was his anxiety about people saying ‘no’ to him (from small things as asking for extra ketchup at a restaurant, to large consequential events like asking to interview the President), that he decided to expose himself to it daily. It didn’t get any easier for him, though he found that more people said ‘yes’ than he expected to. Go on, go to Cheap Charlie’s and at least 8 other bars that are open and ask one woman in each to go on a date with you. If they all say ‘no’, then you’ve succeeded. If they all say ‘yes’, then you have 8 dates to plan and a lot of cooking to do. Either way, there’s a lot of writing to do for this blog, and perhaps a bit less disappointment with ‘rejection’.
Hey there, James. Thanks for reading and for the first time comment. I hope to hear more from you!
I don’t want to overstate the rejection thing by making it out to be a big deal. It really isn’t, but when I meet someone who seems to trip my triggers and it isn’t mutual, well, that’s certainly disappointing.
As I’m sure you know in quite a few bars around here when you ask a gal out the answer is always yes…it’s just about negotiating the price. But I do get your point,
Glad to have you here at LTG!