In the minority

Not in the Philippines
It’s hotter than it has ever been since I moved here six years ago

My walkaholic habit has continued despite the heat, but the intense sun evaporates much of the enjoyment. I still managed to suffer through an 8K solo hike yesterday, but I was whacked when I finished.

Living on the bay. Literally.
Not sure I’d like living next to this mosquito farm
As close as I came to Easter Mountain on my Thursday trek
The path I took wasn’t cool

But you just gotta keep pushin’ on.

The day’s big event was the rooftop gathering of Swan’s friends and family to commemorate the first anniversary of Alan’s passing, the man Swan spent seventeen years loving. I wasn’t sure what to expect, although I assumed some of Alan’s friends (he was a Brit) would be there. Nope. Almost all Filipinas and a handful of Filipinos. Until my next-door neighbor Jeff showed up, I was the only Caucasian in attendance. That was kinda weird. People appeared to be having fun and I was impressed with the amount of beer and wine that was being consumed, especially by the gals. And, of course, it wasn’t long before the karaoke broke out. I was a little taken aback that I didn’t hear one word about Alan, who I thought was the reason we were there. Again, I have no experience with events of this nature, and I just went with the flow. Well, towards the end of the evening I did sing the Alan Parsons song I posted yesterday in Alan’s honor.

Goodbye my love
Maybe for forever
Goodbye my love
The tide waits for me
Who knows when we shall meet again
If ever
But time
Keeps flowing like a river (on and on)
To the sea
To the sea

Till it's gone forever
Gone forever
Gone forevermore

Anyway, it may have made Swan a little sad, but the party continued in full swing. In fact, we ran out of beer around nine o’clock, and I said my goodnights, but the remaining guests partied on. I woke up a couple of hours later and could still hear singing on the roof.

The Rite Spot is open for business
All setup and ready to go. Swan said she expected around ten attendees, but it turned out to be closer to twenty.
The food table stocked with a variety of Filipino favorites. I contributed a crockpot of meatballs and brownies.
The early arrivals went for food first
I’ve never seen that from the roof before. Seeing a parasailer without the bay in the picture makes it look more like an airplane disaster.
More guests arrived
The party in full swing
Let the bad singing commence!
Time, flowing like a river
Time, beckoning me
Gone but not forgotten. Rest in Peace, Alan.
Night descends, and we party on
A moment of quiet reflection for Swan
I’m not sure who this gal is, but she could sure put away the beers. And then she did a dance routine that would put most bargirls to shame.
Most of the folks left before I did, but some stragglers held on until midnight or so.

And so ended another day in paradise.

Facebook reminded me of how I was doing eleven years ago:

I’d say I’m doing better these days

Quora Q&A time:

Q: Americans who travelled to Vietnam, how was your experience and how did people treat you?

A: I was treated well on my visit to Saigon/HCMC last year. I did take a tour of the Cu Chi tunnels, and the tour guide seemed to gloat about all the creative booby traps the Viet Cong used to kill Americans. I, of course, bit my tongue and ignored the one-sided history (there was also a South Vietnamese military we were there to support being killed as well). Anyway, to the victors go the spoils, including framing the narrative in a manner of their own choosing.

Overall, I never felt any other animosity or hostility from the locals I interacted with. I asked an American expat living there if he had ever felt unwelcome because of the war. He told me he had asked an elderly Vietnamese man if he ever felt bad thoughts towards Americans. His response: “Why would I? We won.” That seems to be the prevailing attitude. Vietnam is moving forward, and its citizens are proud of all that has been accomplished.

I hope to revisit Vietnam someday and see more of the country.

Some lame attempts at humor:

What a dick!
I’m funny when you’re drunk

So, I’m going to do the SOB thing tonight. It’s been a few weeks, so it might seem fresh again. The venue is the Green Room so I’ll need to get there early to get a good seat. I’ll let you know how that goes tomorrow.

4 thoughts on “In the minority

  1. I contributed a crockpot of meatballs and brownies.

    I have never eaten that combination. Sounds delightfully gross.

    Here’s hoping Swan had a mindful yahrzeit for Alan. Seventeen years is a long time. And they never married? Maybe they were doing the Kurt-and-Goldie thing—you know: “Why ruin a good thing by getting married?” And sure enough, Kurt and Goldie are still together. For some people, marriage is the curse that ruins couplehood. For others, it’s a happy and firm commitment.

  2. Was the get together for Alan “advertised” in the expat community? If Swan doesnt keep in contact with Alan’s friends, maybe it wasnt so unusual that there was minimal turnout from the expat side.

    Re: Heat You are up early. Have you ever thought about pushing your walk forward a couple of hours to coincide with the sunrise? If it is anything like Thailand, it is actually a pretty nice time to walk.

  3. Brian, I felt a little weird about even being involved since I’m Alan’s replacement. Swan asked me to attend, and I agreed, but I wasn’t sure what to expect. Anyway, all the “advertising” was word-of-mouth from Swan, and I don’t know who all she reached out to invite.

    I’m a creature of habit, so I haven’t really considered changing my routines to facilitate a sunrise walk. If this heat wave were a permanent phenomenon, I probably would be inclined to change my ways. I’m looking forward to the rainy season’s arrival!

  4. Kev, yes, I should have worded that better. But if I can make brownie meatballs a thing, I’ll be famous!

    I did ask Swan once about the marriage thing, and as I recall, it had to do with Alan being out of the country several months a year for work. I didn’t care to delve into the matter any deeper than that. I’m gonna try for that Kurt-and-Goldie thing; I haven’t had much luck with the other option.

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