A thoughtful comment on my post “Comfortably numb” commenced me to thinking it’s about time I shake things up some in my so-called life. But where to start? Kevin Kim suggests I consider “theme travel” which has some appeal, more so in the historical vein as I’m not much of a foodie. I do have a short list of places in the Philippines I want to visit along with some other Asian destinations. When I return from my USA trip I’m resolved to start knocking them out.
And as y’all know, I’ve had some love life doors slammed in my face recently which still has me somewhat out of kilter. So I’ve decided to take up fishing. People keep telling me that “there’s lots of fishes in the ocean”, so I might as well cast out a line and see if I get any bites. I honestly don’t like fishing all that much (preferring the fish come to me ready to eat enjoy). As that doesn’t seem to be happening I’ve got a couple of fishing spots I’m going to revisit–namely Date in Asia and Filipina Cupid.
Sorting out the potential keepers from the poisonous varieties is no easy task, and frankly I’ve just not had the patience to deal with the scammers and desperadoes who you inevitably encounter on the aforementioned dating sites. But my new motivation ties in with my travel planning–I’m going to set up meetings with gals in the locations I plan to visit–a tour guide if you will.
In order to keep my sanity, my plan right now is to identify one woman from each site daily who appears to have some potential and send her a message (a baited hook so to speak). Depending on if and how they respond we’ll see if it is worth continuing the dialog leading to a possible future meeting. If not, I’ll recast my line.
Today’s Date in Asia gal is 31 and lives in Olongapo. So she would be someone I could see locally. So far I’ve only gotten a one word response and nothing to my followup message. Although to be fair she hasn’t been online so hasn’t seen it. We’ll see.
Well, damn. Filipina Cupid does not allow you to lift profile photos so I can’t show you the 28 year old I’m chatting up from Dumaguete, one of the places on my “go to” list. Not a bad chat thus far although there have been a couple of red flags (she knows too much about pensions and asked how much I pay for rent). But we have exchanged phone numbers and a couple of texts, so we’ll see where it goes.
And there you have the story of my first tentative steps into the next chapter of my life. Crap, what if my life is a Stephen King novel? Stay tuned!
You better watch what you say
You better watch what you do to me
Don’t get carried away
Girl, if you can do better than me, go
Yeah go but remember
Good love is hard to find
Good love is hard to find
You got lucky babe
Yeah, you got lucky babe
When I found you-
You put a hand on my cheek
And then you turn your eyes away
If you don’t feel complete
If I don’t take you all of the way, go
Yeah go, but remember
Good love is hard to find
Good love is hard to find
You got lucky babe
Yeah you got lucky
When I found you
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5QqUs3WqfkE
May you not end up with a knife in your chest, physically or metaphorically.
Yikes! That would be one of my goals for sure…
With the dating sites, I think you have to take a long view. After a while, you will start to see which ones are for real, and which are out to scam you. I recommend chatting with them on line for a while, rather than immediately setting up a face to face. Those that are looking to scam you will probably lose patience and drop contact. Whether you are or not, mention early on that you are not rich (in an offhand way). If someone is really interested, they will continue to maintain contact.
Not sure how the sites work, but probably worth it to spend the $100(?) or so for a yearly premium membership.
Red flags (at least to me)
multiple pictures of them in bars
tattoos
pictures in fancy hotel rooms
on line in the early hours of the morning
nothing but pictures of them in a swimsuit, or “barely there” clothing
Any of the above will be enough for me to “take care”.
Also, look at girls in Manila. I realize that the distance may be a problem, but with the larger population base, a larger base of “real” girls.
Anyways, just some random thoughts. Good luck!!
Thanks, Brian!
Yes, I’m tracking right on point with your suggestions. I did the online thing a lot back before I got married and learned the hard way after getting scammed a couple of times. All the red flags you mention are good indicators to keep your guard up. And any gal who asks for money BEFORE we met in person gets blocked. I always say “so sorry for your problem. What would you have done if you didn’t know me? Do that!” Then it’s goodbye.
Yeah, I do look at the gals in Manila as options provided they are willing to travel. There’s also a surprisingly large number of girls in Olongapo. And of course Angeles/Pampagna.
Thanks again for the input.