Here’s a quick post about My Date With Mary.
As I’ve mentioned, one of the things I find most attractive about Mary is she is a smart girl. Of course, smart girls tend to think for themselves and can sometimes be very willful. So, once Mary has her mind made up, there’s no changing it. She had it in her mind that she was going to spend the night with me. What could I do?
I suggested we start with some drinks, then have dinner, and I’d bring her home after. Those terms were acceptable to her, so we agreed to meet on the rooftop at BarCelona at 5:00 p.m. I chose BarCelona because it has some nice views and also because it is a bar I don’t frequent regularly…i.e., I wouldn’t have to deal with the prying eyes of one of my regular bargirls and any jealousy that may ensue.
Mary arrived about fifteen minutes late, which is what is known as “Filipina time.” In her defense, she was coming from Kalaklan, and catching a Jeepney on the highway at that time of day can be a pain as many are filled with passengers coming home from work in Olongapo City. I was on my second drink when she entered the bar.
I was a little surprised when Mary told me this was only the second time she had been inside a bar–the first being when I took her to Alaska Club for the SOB a couple of weeks ago. She ordered water and a coke, which is her choice, and I’m quite capable of drinking enough for the two of us.
We had some chit-chat and ordered a second round of drinks. I asked Mary where she would like to eat dinner, and she said, “I want the chicken fingers at Sit-n-Bull. Alrighty, then. We’ll save those ribeyes at John’s place for another time. Mary has a schoolmate who works at Wet Spot, and Sit-n-Bull delivers to Wet Spot, so I suggested we go there and visit her friend. Mary was up for that idea, and Wet Spot was right downstairs from us, so off we went. That makes three bars for Mary now if you are keeping score.
We grabbed an open table and settled in, only to discover that Mary’s friend wasn’t working, which is very unusual for a Saturday night. Oh, well. My regular waitress came and greeted us and took our drink orders. Mary had another soft drink, I had more gin and soda, and I also bought mywaitress a drink. The Sit-n-Bull waitress came by with a menu, and we ordered some grub. I did a roast beef dip, Mary got her chicken fingers (plus an order to go), and I bought a pizza for the waitresses to share.
And then things get a little fuzzy. I kept drinking; the manager, Bret, sent me over a drink on the house. A bit later, owner Dave came in and bought me a drink too. Mevelyn, the cute little dancer I barfined a while back for “cuddling only,” was onstage, and Mary thought she looked like a girl from her school, so I called her down to join us. It wasn’t the same girl Mary knew, but I got her a drink anyway. It turns out she is moving back home to the province next week. Good luck to you, sweetie.
Mary and my waitress asked if they could do tequila shots, and who was I to say no? Even if they do cost 200 pesos a pop. I think they both had two, but by now, I was over my gin capacity and in no condition to count. But it wasn’t long afterward that Mary and I were in a trike heading home.
I made us a smoothie (banana, strawberry, mango, and pineapple), and we hit the hay shortly after. Well, rolled in it. I know I woke up with a sweet young thing next to me, and it was very nice for a change to have a warm body sharing my bed.
Mary joined me on the dog walk then I made us some breakfast–cheese quesadilla, tuna salad (as requested by my guest), tortilla chips, and salsa. By all appearances (disappearances?), she enjoyed her morning meal.
Mary is crazy about the salsa I use, so I gave her a jar to bring home.
And then it was time to end our time together. I offered to walk her home to Kalaklan (about 4K up the highway), but she declined, saying she preferred the Jeepney. I walked with her out of the neighborhood, spotted a trike, and sent her home in style.
And the cycle repeats itself!
Jayzus
That is literally a child 🙄 😒
I won’t scroll back to find out, but do Filipinos finish high school at a younger age 🤔
Alice, the woman you are calling “literally a child” is turning nineteen this year and is the mother of a two-year-old son. For what it is worth, I did get a copy of her birth certificate prior to our first meeting that confirmed her adulthood.
I’m no expert on Filipino high schools, but I know of students still attending at twenty years of age. The scamdemic took its toll here too, and some of the students had time away from school to find work. Sadly, some miss schooltime when they give birth.
I’m not sure what cycle you are referring to. It was only a date. I’m more likely to be her sponsor than her boyfriend.
She had it in her mind that she was going to spend the night with me. What could I do?
Say no.
I know I woke up with a sweet young thing next to me, and it was very nice for a change to have a warm body sharing my bed.
I don’t think sponsors normally sleep with the people they sponsor, do they?
I do think you’re trapped in the same samsaric cycle you’ve been whirling around on a million times before. This isn’t going to end well. On your behalf, I’m already bracing for impact.
If you’re determined to continue in this vein, you are of course free to do so, but I hope you enjoy the childish drama of a girl who’s not even 20. She might not be dramatic right now, but as this relationship or whatever-it-is deepens, the drama will appear as she starts to think of you, more and more, as hers. And as I alluded before, I’m pretty sure she’s worldly enough to be using you as much as you’re using her. A lot of men delude themselves into thinking they’re engaged in something simple and good and pure when it’s nothing of the sort. Anyway, buena suerte.
Kev, it depends on how you define “sponsor”. Is the Sugar Daddy concept a form of sponsorship?
It was interesting reading the link on samsaric. I’ve got to admit this description seemed awfully familiar: “aimless and directionless wandering”.
I admit I have no idea what I want, what I’m doing, or where this is going. I’m in full “taking it one day at a time” mode. I very well may determine that this isn’t going to work on any level, but it is also possible we will find a niche that satisfies both of our needs.
Here’s hoping for a soft landing!
Did you see any actual ID or is the birth certificate a sure thing for confirming age? I haven’t had the little guy happy in years (yes, depressing when married) so i probably wouldn’t say no if she forced herself on me.
QP, I have no reason to doubt her age and the birth certificate photo confirms what she told me. I know she looks younger in her photos, but she is of legal age. She seems like a nice person, and I hope we can build a mutually beneficial arrangement.
Thanks for the clarification. I have no doubt that she’s technically an adult at age 19. There’s nothing illegal about that.
I am just curious as to the attraction. To me , she looks like a pubescent child , at the age where you can’t tell whether she’s a girl or boy because that’s not really important at that stage. Maybe it’s because she’s not wearing make-up and she’s short and she has baby-face.
In other posts, you have put up pictures of women, who look womanly despite their youth. Even some that I would refer to as girls, but somehow evidently adults. Even petite Virginia, who might even be younger, looks like a girl .
Of course this is based only on pictures
I guess my question is : is that what you find attractive or maybe she’s a great conversationalist with lots in common with you .
Wow. This comes across as quite judgmental, and God knows you don’t need random strangers meddling in your personal business. But here we are. What’s the attraction
Sounds good! Mutually beneficial and enjoyable, with everyone happy.
This comes across as quite judgmental, and God knows you don’t need random strangers meddling in your personal business.
Alice, I freely choose to post my life on the internet. Feedback from my readers is something I actually appreciate, and I gain insights and wisdom from their comments. So, please know I don’t take offense, and I thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts.
Mary’s attractiveness to me is her intelligence. We met through Facebook when she sent me an unsolicited friend request. I don’t normally accept this kind of request unless we have some mutual friends or other connections. For some reason, though, I engaged in a Messenger chat with her and was very impressed with her command of written English and that her conversation was on a much deeper and more meaningful level than almost any of the Filipinas I’ve chatted with previously. When I saw her picture, though, like you, I thought she looked way too young. Thanks why I asked her to send some evidence that she really was a legal adult. Most of the women I meet here are employed in bars, so I know they have been vetted and are over eighteen years of age. I just wanted to reassure you that I have no interest whatsoever in underage girls.
So, I agreed to meet Mary in person for a meal at one of my favorite restaurants. We enjoyed the food and had a pleasant conversation. Physically, she’s a little heavier than I like but the more we talked, the more I saw her inner beauty. Even so, I wasn’t comfortable with the age gap–Mary is the youngest woman I’ve dated here. But she kept messaging me with sweet talk, and so I finally agreed to let her join me at home for dinner. She wound up spending the night. She’s a nice girl, and I enjoy her company–that’s the attraction.
I find some of the other young women I’ve met, like Virgina, to be more physically attractive but not nearly as interesting as Mary. Even so, I’m not going to be rushing into a relationship with anyone just yet. The age gap thing is worrisome. Still, as a young mother and student, perhaps I can find ways to make Mary’s life a little easier or at least less stressful financially. I respect the fact that she has never asked me for money, although I have offered to help her out with some school expenses.
I try to live one day at a time, so I’ll just have to wait and see what happens next. Thanks again for your comment, and I hope now you have a better understanding of my perspective.
QP, that’s the preferred outcome for sure.