So, I am making my coffee this morning and I dropped the pot. Shattered into shards covering a surprising radius. Called for housekeeping to bring a broom and new pot. They got here promptly and cleaned up the mess. The coffee maker they brought does not work however.
Guess going without coffee this morning is my punishment for being a clumsy oaf.
UPDATE: Day turned out ok. Got my SOFA stamp from Korean immigration, got my permanent ration card, have an appointment for transport of household goods tomorrow, and some more work piled on the desk. Hey, it doesn’t get much better than this!
At least you can drink coffee. I miss it so much. Gracyn kicks me like crazy when I drink it. Decaf tea instead for me. We are doing her nursery this weekend. Grace is driving up from Florida to help us. In other news, I have cut back my work week from 55 hours to 40. Doctor’s Orders! It makes quite a difference in my quality of life. I feel human again. Unfortunately, I am not going to get the promotion I was working for. My manager is hiring someone else for the role. Instead, she is hiring a friend of mine that I recruited from another agency for the position. This was my managers response she sent me in an email, “Well, let’s look at it this way -you are both professional people and it appears as if you have a mutual respect for each other! In addition, if she came in as a DD it would be to grow herself in to another position eventually and that would leave the door open again for you. Although I still think you will be a great DD (and I told her that), you are going to want to be a primary Mom for a little while. To be a DD as well as the mother of a newborn might prove to be too stressful – we will wait and see how things play out. You have a ton of talent also and you would be an unstoppable partner!!!!” Do you think she would have said that to a man in my position. I’m not trying to be one of those women that wants break the glass ceiling, but give me a break. That comment is just stupid.
That’s all the latest. Miss you!
John, Are we allowed to comment about other comments? 😉
Go for it MLF…
My sweet Renee. No, she wouldn’t have sad that to a man in your position. I don’t know what else to tell you, except to take comfort in the life that grows within you. And know that you are a very talented woman and your time will come. That doesn’t make the situation suck any less, but keep your perspective. In the grand scheme of things a job is fleeting. Hold on to love.
Honey ask yourself if there is any truth to her statement. Can you balance baby and work or will you put work on the back burner for a while? If it is the later let it go but if it is the former then you have cause for a complaint. Oddly enough pregnancy discrimination is the fastest growing area of discrimination allegations. I spent two weeks in Potamoac MD in training while Nolan at age 2 was in the hospital where an undetermined illness caused him to lose 1/3 of his body weight in less than a week. It took ten days to stablize him. He was not in danger of dying but his condition was serious. Could you do that? That is the kind of sacrifice you would have to make in order to stay on the career track versus the mommy track. If there is any unfairness in this situation it is that men are not perceived as less dedicated to work in such a situation when they elect to go home. Of course I guess the majority of men would choose as I did. Mind you I am not advocating that men should be perceived as less dedicated, I am just pointing out that it doesn’t affect the perception of their work ethics as it does for a woman.
I still don’t believe it is anyone else’s right to decide what I can and can’t handle, regardless of what track I am going to choose. Stress can come in many forms, not just from being a mother.
Renee,
How ridiculous and insulting that your boss said that the other girl would be wanting to move up (as if you didn’t)and then she dangles the job in front of you as long as you don’t mind waiting for the other girl to move up. Your boss needs some serious people skills.
That being said, don’t blame your boss for thinking you can’t handle it. Blame all of the women who can’t handle it or refuse to handle it and expect to get paid regardless of whether they are working or at home taking care of their sick kid.
No she doesn’t have that right. However, if you are going to pursue legal action make sure you are willing to go the route that you are challenging that you’ve been denied. It falls under the saying “Be careful what you ask for. You may get it”
I was 8 months pregnant with Nolan when I got the call from the postal service. They asked me if I wanted to defer my start date, which is perfectly legal as that left the choice to me, and I did waiting until he was four months old. Good thing too because those 12 hour days 6 days a week nearly killed me in the beginning. I could never have handled it pregnant or immediately after the baby was born.
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