Spare your heart…

…everything put together, sooner or later falls apart

Sorry for the lack of posting recently, lots going on but I’ve not felt up to write about it.  Until now anyway.

The holiday weekend was good up until it wasn’t.  Thursday night I had Chuseok dinner with the nephew and a co-worker friend.  Eun Oke joined us later and we had a good time drinking.  Then hit the norebang.  My singing has not improved.

On Friday Eun Oke joined me for a pleasant walk on the Han riverside.  I prepared a meal of pulled pork and cole slaw for her.  Then we hit the bars.

On Friday Eun Oke joined me for a hike along the Han riverside.

On Friday Eun Oke joined me for a hike along the Han riverside.

Saturday afternoon we joined a couple of friends for a cookout featuring ribs, potato salad, bacon wrapped asparagus (a first for me and it was delicious) and a veggie salad.  I contributed a banana pudding for dessert.

Saturday afternoon we attended a barbecue at Mat and Sohee's place. Good food and good times.

Saturday afternoon we attended a barbecue at Mat and Sohee’s place. Good food and good times.

Saturday night it was back to the bars where I bid farewell to some new old friends.

Said farewell to Dale and his wife Gwen. Dale is a Sergeant Major who has completed his Korea tour and is returning to the states. The occasion dictated that we do shots. Which required reciprocation. So you can see how that went.

Said farewell to Dale and his wife Gwen. Dale is a Sergeant Major who has completed his Korea tour and is returning to the states. The occasion dictated that we do shots. Which required reciprocation. So you can see how that went.

The front...

Dale honored me with his coin.  The front…

...and the back. Thanks again, Dale.

…and the back. Thanks again, Dale.

Eun Oke left Sunday morning to care for her dogs.  She called me later and said she didn’t have to work and that she missed me.  So I invited her on over.  We met at Shenanigans and did some drinking.  Work night though so we came home early.  I fixed her some brats for dinner.

And then at two in the morning Eun Oke wakes me up and says she is leaving.  I’m like “what this all about?”  It seems she has decided that our future dreams are incompatible so she sees no point in continuing the relationship.

I was gobsmacked.  Although she had done this exact same thing once before, but we managed to talk our way through it and I assumed the issue was resolved.  Apparently not.

The first thing she did when she left (and I mean before she was out of the driveway) was block me on Facebook.  Apparently she’s the type that once she decides it is over, it is over.  And I have to admit her actions hurt me deeply.  I got pretty sucked in and I foolishly thought she had similar feelings.

And so it goes.

Back to the solitary life of which I had previously grown accustomed.  Luckily, my heart is primarily scar tissue so the bleeding shouldn’t last too long.  I’ve arranged for some therapy in the form of 11 days in Thailand.  I’ll leave on the 7th of October.

You can’t live in the future.  You take each day as it comes and it will lead you to whatever the future turns out to be.  I couldn’t make Eun Oke understand that.  And it’s a shame really.  She was a lot of fun and I enjoyed her company.  I imagine I’ll be missing her but will remain grateful for the temporary reprieve from loneliness she gifted me.

And that’s all I’ve got.

9 thoughts on “Spare your heart…

  1. Ugh. Sorry to hear it, but I must say, I suspected something was up because of the lack of posting. Your silence spoke volumes. As you say, though, take things day by day. Thailand—Thighland, according to the “Hangover” crowd—beckons. Many young, nubile thighs await.

  2. Sorry to hear it. It never ceases to blow my mind how people one considers friends/partners can just decide you’re no longer worth it (worth what, who even knows).

    Thailand should be a nice break at least. It’s one of the very, very few places in Asia I actually miss and will most likely visit again, so I am looking forward to your future post about it.

    Take care

  3. Sorry to hear this John. I have had some similar experiences with regard to Korean ladies and it astounds me in relation to the immediacy with which they often handle matters of the heart, so much so that in a few instances I quite simply thought it was a joke. After a significant period together the manner in which they (excuse generalization) seem able to “pull up sticks” and head out the door with nary a backwards glance bewilders me. Take care and enjoy Thailand with all its attractions and stay clear of tattoos.

  4. Ouch! I even sensed something not good happened…but yet about her leaving u is a common situation and I guessed u are accustoned to it..sorry about it tho’… “Beware what u do to others may it happen back to u”…
    Maybe it’s really right time for u to spare your heart…when will you ever learn?…(joke)…you don’t really need a woman to make you happy…i hope so!…yet maybe a Thailander would be the next cutie in the blog…we will stay tuned…

  5. …seemed the ending was obvious the first time it featured here…I knew a lot about Korean women ..hoped you knew that too John…you enjoyed them tho’ that’s what matter..

  6. wtf? I’ve been trying to get my yobo to leave for 30 years. what am I doing wrong? be thankful not to much time or moolah invested in that short-term relationship. I will miss seeing her in those daisy dukes though. I think Thailand is just what the doctor ordered. couple of nights on soi cowboy and all will be well. just watch out for the ladyboys or being blocked on facebook will be the least of your worries. Peace out my friend!

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